Why do people care more about their outward beauty than their beauty in the inside?

Question

When I mean your inside beauty, I don't mean your intestines and those type of things. I mean your personality and who you are.

People from the beginning want to make sure they look all nice and act in a way that other people will accept you. What matters more is your personality and your heart because it's what people will always remember you by. They will never really remember how beautiful you looked and all, but they will always remember how you act, your attitude, and your kindness. Why not try to make your heart beautiful, so that other people will know you by that.

It's very hard to work on you inward beauty, but it's the most important.

I know I have already asked this question, but I thought maybe someone else wants to answer it.

Answer 1

well its the way how media has project outward beauty as a crucial, appealing, selling strategy in the media business that people are more drawn to such outward beauty till the extend of people wanting to be as good looking as a celebrity. hence plastic surgeries,body modification, & etc are just some options for them to look good or attractive all the time. Its a shame for those who are blinded by such outward beauty that the inner beauty isnt recognizable or significant enough for them

Answer 2

first, i hav to say that i completely agree with u. i think that most ppl think that the outward beauty is more important than what they r on the inside. this misconception comes up because the very nature of human society. we live in a society where there exist intense social competition, a craving for acceptance, a desperate struggle for ascendancy in the social strata. a person who doesn't look great is supposed to be lower down this hierarchy. it is the effort to go up this ladder that leads ppl to excessively rely on their outside beauty.

the roots of this lie in the adolescent years where the hormones, rather than their brain, decide their actions in many cases. and in an environment where the female sex is attracted to the males with better looks, and vice versa, this race for beauty begins. some people grow out of it, some don't.

personally, i don't believe that the outward looks of a person really matter. the looks, if at all, only provide an introduction. not a verbal, but a visual one. i think the most attractive feature in anybody is their ability to discuss on a varied list of topics, their ability to make any person smile and laugh, and their ability to empathize.

Answer 3

People tend to judge a book by its cover. Sadly, the same with human. At first impression, what do you think of a slacky guy, with unkept hair and strange body odors, unshaved and dirty fingernails?

What if the same guy is all beauty inside, humble, friendly, loving, kind and sensitive to other people's needs? Will you be proud of him walking by your side in a public area?

Have I answered your question yet? OK, now, for the overview, outward beauty must match inward beauty. You can't have one but not the other if you want to be fondly remembered and adored by all.

Answer 4

Because we're trained basically from the moment were born. Everyone says "OH what a cute baby" and Mom And Dad are proud. Then if they say"She's so smart!" Well they might be a little proud but then they wonder are they saying that because she's not so cute? It's ridiculous because as you say, it never rewards your basic integrity, intellect, sensitivity, or kindness, which are like the big ones in my book. It can be done - my son has done it - he's 23 and he is model-actor good looking and yet no one says that about him. (fine by me!) They say, he's so fun, he's really clever, he's great to be around, he's nice, he's funny. And everyone is always clamoring to be around him. He's going to school to be a veterinarian, so then he's so sensitive and he loves animals too! Obviously I'm very proud of him, but he could have coasted on his looks, but he has more heart than anyone I've ever known

Answer 5

its the first thing you see, its the easiest way to impress people, it is easier and faster to work on the outside than the inside. Being a really good person takes a lot of work, but I am telling you that people do work on that too, its just that society and the media focuses on the outside all the time and everyone feels pressured. But I work with young children so I am telling you that parents as well as teachers are always trying to work on the inside of the child, getting them to be nice and kind to others its tough, teaching them good manners and positive behavior is a constant challenge, it is something that you learn slowly, and you are always struggling with that even as an adult.

Answer 6

being physically attractive is what another person observes first visually in another person. The sense of sight gives people appeal in the brain to futher "investigate" the person within the package.
If people would communicate they may find a very interesting person in a not so perfect package. Generally speaking,I feel people that are overly concerned with what they look like are somewhat shallow and not concerned with the brain and feelings that make up the whole person.

Answer 7

Because we all want love and acknowledgement.. we only exist within the backdrop of our environment, our value and self-worth depends on it.. others are the mirror in which we see ourselves.

And we're all to blame for it... think about how often parents compliment the child with "you are so cute".. rather than "you are so kind, you are so smart, you can draw so well".. no.. "you are so pretty, you are so cute".


It all has to do with superficiality. See, what we find beauty is completely dependent on our own ideals and opinions.. our ideals.. while we think today that skinny people are pretty, despite their bones sticking out, you can see in paintings of rembrandt and others, that being chubby was considered much more pretty in his time and age.. so what we believe is beauty or not, depends on opinions and ideas.. seeing 16 year old, pretending to be 30 year old who remain young by using creams, in fashion magazines, as advertisement.. makes 30 year olds feel ugly despite being completely natural..

Media, advertisement.. they teach us this from the start.. because feeling disconent with oneself is an excellent motivation for people to buy crap.. makeup, plastic surgery, etc. etc.

Short answer, because we are ignorant sheep.

Answer 8

Outer beauty is the invitation to get to know the inner beauty. Now for some, outer beauty is the only facet they seem to cultivate, leaving nothing but a shallow, hollow shell. I just don't think these shallow people have a firm grasp on what they are missing by not cultivating a deeping meaning to their life.

Answer 9

Because when you walk down the street and see someone, you can't possibly say they have beautiful inner beauty as it's an unknown element. The first thing you see is the physical and unfortunately some people get stuck on that.

Answer 10

that's because everyone around us in our life cares so much more about outward beauty that they completly forget that how you look is not important. What's important is who you truly are inside. there's this chinese proverb that says, "if you have a beautiful heart, you will be a beautiful person, Cause what you think affects how you look."