So I have a friend. She is nice, but at the same time, a tad bit creepy. She is very good looking and she knows it and wants every guy to fall in love with her, regardless of how she feels for them. Did I just say she was nice earlier? Well what I meant to say is that she is generally quite friendly. The problem is that lately she has been stalking me. She always bangs on my door or calls a thousand times. Unfortunately, she lives in my quad, so we share a kitchen and shower. When I am there, she sits there and talks about all these other guys and says the same thing over and over again. She did this with me for 7 hours the other day. She either talks about these guys or she talks about her body. She was upset with me for liking another girl and said I am a womanizer. I asked her what difference it makes seeing as how she said she likes me as a friend. She immediately kicks my crotch and tells me she has never been rejected. She apologized but is still stalking me. Help!!
2006-07-27 23:30:59 · 9 answers · asked by bhuft76 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Of course I wanted to be direct, but I knew her feelings get hurt easily. On her way to the shower, she stopped at my door and started banging (she had just left my room 2 minutes earlier) and I jokingly told her to take a shower. She did not say goodnight that day (which was unusual) and the next day we had a big talk about how her feelings were hurt. This is a not a girl to be blunt or really direct to or else she will go on and on about it.
2006-07-27 23:33:13 · update #1
Lol, im not the type to answer these questions, but if i were you, i would think this is funny and let this go on until she has something she wants to say to you, unless this is making you uncomfortable in anyway. So their is really nothing you can do physically, or even verbally that would cure this, she just has to eventually stop, tell you something, get over you, just be friends, or date you. Its simple, and i dont think the stalking thing will last to long, trust me, girls who like guys will eventually stop if they ever started, will move on into something else with you.
2006-07-27 23:40:10 · answer #1 · answered by See ya later aligator 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IGNORE HER. It's the only thing you can do. If it gets that bad, then move out or get a restraining order. She sounds very unstable and emotionally disturbed. Unless you like this sort of drama I suggest you ignore it completely until it gets bored and moves on to the next victim. Obviously she must see some weakness in you or she wouldn't be attracted to YOU for this type of psycho attention.
You deserve better than this and you know it or you wouldn't be asking about it here.
Good luck!
2006-07-27 23:44:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just have to be honest, and be blunt. If you hurt her feelings, then, well, tough luck.. beating about the bush and trying to be polite sometimes just results in mixed messages and tears further on down the line.
Sit down with her, and tell her how you feel - honestly. She might be in a strop with you for a while, maybe a long long while, but she will get over it eventually, and she can concentrate on stalking someone who actually 'likes' her, and you can get on with your life.
2006-07-27 23:40:20 · answer #3 · answered by HP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bring a girl home with you. that will show her that you are not interested in her but with someone else. also, try coming home a little later than usual or stay out of the house more often - just get away from her. she'll eventually get tired of waiting for you to listen to her stories and bother someone else.
2006-07-27 23:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by Tropicala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!! The girl need some help. "she's nice, blah, blah, blah, she's pretty, blah, blah, blah..." SO!!! She sounds like she's not to far from hanging over you while you sleep with a knife and "de-manning" you. Lock your bedroom door at night, and try to avoid her.
Hey, you could always hook her up with another guy (One you don't really like). She can stalk him for a while!
2006-07-27 23:37:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
boy, does she sound really creepy.stalking?...for crying out loud how the heck did you become friends with her in the first place?she really sounds desperate to me, and the only way to deal with desperate women is to be blunt with her.she'll probably be shocked and hurt but at least you've let her know where she stands with her "affections".
oh! and please be careful,she might try to do you wrong in a big way,you know what they say "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned".
2006-07-27 23:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by peaches 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a mortgage for a house far away
2006-07-27 23:33:39 · answer #7 · answered by venom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe all she wants is sex.
Give it up and see if she goes away.
2006-07-27 23:38:33 · answer #8 · answered by jquasimodot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy a stun gun.
2006-07-27 23:33:27 · answer #9 · answered by Milkman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋