2006-07-27 23:02:30 · 12 answers · asked by taurus 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off, Why would you want a man who is married, You should not think for one minute that you have anything more special than his wife. Because if you did he would have chose you to marry, Please don't take that as you are NOT special, it just means that he obviously married her and not you so there was something there with her that was a little different, than with you. MOST IMPORTANTLY FOR YOU TO KEEP IN MIND IF HE IS RUNNING AROUND ON HER MARRIED, WHAT MAKES YOU THINK for one Minute that if you should snag him back and even go as far as having him as your husband What makes you think he would do that to you, who is to say he would not run back to his EX and do to you just what he is doing to his current wife.
You need to check out the dr phil site on men who cheat
www.drphil.com
Also you should realize this you should feel you are more worthy of a man who gives you his world, Not a world of when it is convient for him. If you have a boyfriend who is married Who do you think this man is going to spend Christmas with, his birthday with, Thanksgiving with, who do you think is going to come first.........Dont think for a minute it will be you because let me inform you of something even if this man hates his wife FINANCIALLY HE's GOT TO MUCH TO LOSE.......You already are coming second, if there are kids you will always, always come last dating a married man.
The chances of a man leaving his wife and there are kids involved are almost zero. Oh yeah they do it i'm not saying they don't but trust me the odds are pretty high.
Most men once they marry, it is proven that it is the woman 95% of the time who files the divorce and leaves him.
You should stay as far a way from him as you can, or be prepared to deal with a heart that just keep waiting, and waiting, and waiting while very good me might be crossing your path and can give you a fairy tale marriage. That will never happen if you already dont see yourself as deserving of it. I think that is why you want a marry man.
You already don't feel you deserve any better.
Good luck, I hope you will change your mind on this.
2006-07-28 00:59:51 · answer #1 · answered by sgtroboswife 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had the same situation happen to me about 8 years ago. I told him he had to do everything he could to make his marriage work. If things don't work out, he could call me once the divorce was final. I still loved him, but I couldn't destroy a marriage, even if it was his mistake. Somethings the right thing to do isn't always the happiest.
He is now happily married with two children. He no longer wants to cheat on his wife. I have met a wonderful man and am getting married in a couple of months. He and I may not have ended up together, but we both ended up happy.
So I guess what I really want to say is, its really not worth the time, energy, and stress to break up a marriage. You can't be sure how he really feels about his wife and he may never leave her. If it was meant to be for the both of you, the marriage will dissolve and the two of you can get back together then.
2006-07-28 08:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by rhythm_3b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a douchebag. If he is married and isn't leaving or with you, then obviously you were just an easy bang and he doesn't want anything more from you then that. Get over it and gain a little self-esteem so you can find a dude thats SINGLE and is willing to be with you not just to have a good time or experience the whole rush of being a sneaky bastard and having an affair.
2006-07-28 10:33:25 · answer #3 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u say no way were over.hes ur ex for a reason right.he got married and its not all what he thought it would b.still if u intrfere u will be a homewrecker and u dont want that.so u need to remember how hurt u were when u broke up.do u really think it be different if u did give him a chance.i dontthink so so how bout just continuing what ur doing and letting mr ex work his marriage and let it fall apart.u dont need him and ur strong enough to tell him no.good luck
2006-07-28 06:10:24 · answer #4 · answered by SLICK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on if you want back into his life or not. If your going to have an affair remember that there are consequences to a relationship with a married man. If you want to be back in his life but with no sex let him know up front.
2006-07-28 06:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by Jim C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone he is married.
There is no reason for you to be a part of his life unless you have a child together. Think about how you would feel if the situation was reversed and you were his wife.
2006-07-28 06:07:03 · answer #6 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say "Buh bye! Toodles! Gotta run! Catch ya later, player, Hasta La Vista!!" and run directly in the opposite direction. His wife's gonna cut you if you don't, missy.
2006-07-28 06:28:26 · answer #7 · answered by shannonlilia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go to hell.He is married!Doesn't matter that he is your ex.Even if you did decide to get back together with him,he might change his mind agin and want his wife.Besides how would you like it if your husband was seeing another woman?
2006-07-28 06:08:06 · answer #8 · answered by for_schur 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him go to hell , after enjoying all these years , and now he needs one more for the sake of again only for #############
just don't do it , its all over , you must have self respect and dignity , better find out another new better one for the future ,
2006-07-28 06:10:01 · answer #9 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should reject him, coz if he was really interested in you, he could have married you, i think he is bored with wife, anyways depends on what you really want.
2006-07-28 06:17:09 · answer #10 · answered by khepo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋