she's been my friend since grade 4...never really had a problem...but going into grade 7..she always tried 2 find ut my weaknesses and flaws and use them against me and make jokes about it...my other friend said it was b/c she was over weight and kept comparing herself to me... but it just keeps getting worse- everytime i complain about my nose or something she'll have this wicked looking smile on her face..it's so freaky- she lost alot of weight now...still big but now she's alot less insecure...but she hasn't gotten any better with her attitude 2wards me- and then she always says I'm her bestfriend- i just don't understand..why would a bestfriend do that...what's going onthrough her head- I get jealous of ppl... but i never pray on their weaknesses & try 2 put them down
2006-07-27 22:36:35 · 12 answers · asked by 1 5 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
never said she was my bestfriend- about that it's so frustrating tho..after all that she expects me 2 invite her everywhere I go when I keep telling her she's not my bestfriend and I don't have 2 invite her everywhere
2006-07-27 22:42:01 · update #1
middle school? I'm in a catholic high school
2006-07-27 22:43:13 · update #2
She always cries everytime I go off on her..or don't invite her somewhere EVERYTIME :\ and it's not just light teasing she goes off..one time i slapped her in elementary school.. and I was partners with this quiet girl b/c i was late for class.and then she tried 2 steal my partner..n I was just like ok... and then she kept saying ***** ***** and I just sat there :| and said grow up and went on with my business
2006-07-27 23:05:47 · update #3
there are two kinds of peoples who teases each other. enemies ,and close friends. i'm not gonna tell you to continue to be her friend or leave her, cuz that's totally your decision. you should have a good think though. if you're really annoyed with her attitude, just tell her, and if she gets mad, then perhaps she's not worth being your friend. if she has a reasonable 'excuse', or better,apologizes, then perhaps you could give her another chance. or..perhaps you could test what kind of friend she really is. like pretend you're in big trouble and ask her to help you. if she really is your friend and her attitude is just something she's gotta deal with herself, she would probably help you. if she starts avoiding you...then you've gotta think about it.
best friends are like balloons. once you let go, you can never get it back. but if this balloon is trying too much to pull you off the ground, it'll be better to just let go (and go look for another balloon :D )
good luck :)
2006-07-27 22:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Have you brought this up to her? It amazes me how some people can solve problems by simply talking to the person they are worried about. Be the better person and take the high road. If she doesn't want to talk or keeps making fun of you, is that really the kind of friend you want? Sure, you've been friends for a few years, but its not like you've been best buds for 20. Sometimes going into high school people change and drift apart. It's up to you. Try and talk to save a friendship, or cut your loses now.
2006-07-28 05:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by drewsilla01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she is insecure, if she can point out the weakness of you then it takes attention from her own weakness. of course other people are going to see what she is doing and see that is her problem, it is bigger than her weight problem. she could probably get some self esteem classes and then maybe she would not do this to you and others. (if she is doing this to you she more than likely is doing it to others, and it will get old fast.) the reason you are her best friend is because you let her get away with it. other "friends" probably don't! they probably leave her behind and move on to better relationships. now this is what i would do it it continues. talk to her about it, tell her it is uncomfortable for you to be friends with her if she wants to continually run you down, if she doesn't try to improve her attitude around you then she will have one less "friend to harass" and then leave her and move on to your own new friends. you do not need friends like this. it is a co-dependency thing and it is not good for either of you to be in a relationship that is going like this.
2006-07-28 05:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by dizzie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BESTFRIENDS OR SISTER ARE NOT EXEMPTED FOR BEING JEALOUS AND INSECURE!wE MUST ACCEPT THAT! i USED TO HAVE THAT EXPERIENCE BUT THE LOVE IS ALWAYS THERE!sOME TIMES BESTFRIENDS MAKE FUN WITH EACH OTHER, TEASING AND DOING WILD THINGS AGAINST EACH OTHER BUT JUST FOR FUN AND NOTHING PERSONAL! i F YOU FEEL BEING HUMILIATED, TALK TO HER TO END UP THOSE CRITICISM AND WORK OUT FOR A HARMONIOUS RELATIONSHIP AND ALWAYS WATCH OUT YOU MOUTH TOO THAT SOMETIMES WE DON'T MEANT TO HURT OTHERS BUT WE GOT SLIP OF THE TONGUE! i AM PRETTY SURE SHE REALLY TREATED YOU AS BESTFRIEND AND TRY TO GIVE HER COMPLIMENT BECAUSE SHE IS JUST TREATING YOU LIKE A SISTER BY BEING A CRITIC AND NOT BEING SO MEAN!bEING FRANK IS THE BEST WAY TO STOP THOSE BAD COMMENTS!
2006-07-28 05:54:51 · answer #4 · answered by tutax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your still in middle school. Just go find another click to go hang out with.
If she is constantly putting you down then shes not a real friend.
Either that or just knock her out one time and tell her if she keeps talking junk your going to do it again.
Either one can work.
2006-07-28 05:41:58 · answer #5 · answered by JB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just evil like that, since you said she was overweight..that'd be why. She feels as if she makes fun of your weakness that it will make her feel better about her weight, I guess..
2006-07-28 05:41:05 · answer #6 · answered by ohLALA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think YOU might want to consider ending this friendship. she may be keeping you around due to her insecurities. sees you as a healthy source of ammunition. when people should see their own faults, that's when they see them most in others. this doesn't sound like a good relationship. have you talked to her about it? have you told her how much it bothers you? you might want to try that.
2006-07-28 05:42:22 · answer #7 · answered by dmrukifellth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel & to stop making jokes on you. If she doesn't listen, stop talking to her, use the silennt treatment. She'll get angry, be bugged & then apologise. Or ask someone else to make jokes on her, then she'll realize how you feel.
2006-07-28 05:47:36 · answer #8 · answered by virus_photo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not a friend. You obviously have style an charisma, it should be easy for you to find a better friend than her.
2006-07-28 05:43:49 · answer #9 · answered by mama mia! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mabe she is sarcastic like me, me and my best friends have always put each other down and smiled and laughed and called each other hefers i honestly would have to know her personality :O) take care
2006-07-28 05:54:11 · answer #10 · answered by brandi_23sc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋