Im scared.. I don't know what to do..
HE KNOWS I HAVE CANCER
2006-07-27 22:28:30 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im sorry to hear that. But no, I dont think that is selfish. We all need to love and be loved especially when we realise we have not so much time left. Just go on enjoy your life and remember that life is not measuered by the number of breaths we take but by the MOMENTS that take our breath away
2006-07-27 22:33:43 · answer #1 · answered by Amantia A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should be selfish to accept to get married for love?
About having cancer, if he knows, then there is no reason to feel guilty. Selfish? No way.
In life there are no guarantees. Cancer is not a death penalty any longer, there are so many resources to have chances to get over -sure, depending on your personal case- but giving up happiness will not certainly help you out to get better.
Your future husband is not a kid you must protect. If he accepts you the way you are, I do not see a reason to feel self pity.
If that would be the case, no one person that knows cannot have kids would be walking in the street but in a monastery.
Just live, enjoy life and fight till the last second. It will be so much easier having besides you somebody who truly loves you....
After all, your last second can come in decades, once you are a very old woman and remembering how brave you were when you accepted the best gift love can give: to be there no matter what.
Be happy and you will see.
Fro
2006-07-28 05:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by Expat Froggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not selfish. Go ahead and marry him. But before making any plans, both of you should have a frank talk with your doctor and assess the situation. Depending on what stage you are in and the treatment process, he should be prepared to go along with you throughout your recovery and all the ups and downs that come with it. It is not easy but he must stand by you all the time. If you have any doubts about him, feel free to let him go. Cancer is not a killer (if diagnosed early and treated properly) .You can be cured and live many years. Be strong.
2006-07-28 05:50:04 · answer #3 · answered by yuvan53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he knows you have cancer and still want you to marry him, that means he really loves you. You could make him happier (and yourself) by marrying him. It's not selfish. Don't feel guilty for being happy, even if it only last a moment. Not many people have what you both have so you should cherish every moment together.
2006-07-28 05:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by Akai 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not selfish. Live the best you can while you can. There are no guarentees in life. Any one of us could be squished by a bus tomorrow, so you have to make the most out life everyday. Go for it and be happy!
2006-07-28 05:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by bambi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he knows you have cancer, and has proposed to you anyways, it isn't selfish. If he has proposed to you before you (or him) found out you have cancer, sit him down and talk to him to see if the offer still stands. And if the offer still stands, make sure it doesn't out of pitey, but out of love.
2006-07-28 05:39:00 · answer #6 · answered by pete_can_do 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's a mutual feelin and Cancer doesn't mean to stop livin ur life.
Well if u say yes it doesn't mean u r being selfish ..................
Well it's ur both life
Live it .
All the Best
2006-07-28 05:33:54 · answer #7 · answered by Mellesa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT. if you both go into this with eyes wide open. You should enjoy your time together - who knows what may happen. Good luck to you both
2006-07-28 05:37:21 · answer #8 · answered by flicflac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he knows that you have cancer and he's aware of it, you can say "yes"... it won't be selfish.
2006-07-28 05:43:13 · answer #9 · answered by szym 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey...who told u everything is perfect in this world....don't waist ur time...u luv each other that is grait....go on.......enjoy every moment u have in this life ....we r all have the end of life.....we r all humans....so don't be scared......
and i'm sorry if i said smth that cud hurt u...i just tried to help....
2006-07-28 05:35:22 · answer #10 · answered by El 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋