hi , i am 25 female, i have got married 2 years ago and i was blessed with a beautifull baby ....
lately i discoverd that for the last 8 months my friends havent called and havent said congrats to me, i was hurt .... my baby is almost 6 months and i really thought that they at least should come to see my baby sincethey claimedthey were all my sisters , to let me discover i was alone !
why is that ? {ps.... i wasnt bad to anyone , i was trying to keep in touch but they stopped and i didnt wanna force myself on them} ...
2006-07-27 21:25:59 · 25 answers · asked by delayla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
"Mother my friends are no longer my friends
And the games we once played have no meaning
I've gone serious and shy and they can't figure why
So they've left me to my own daydreaming."
- Suzanne Vega
I think this quote explains your situation well. Maybe your friends are just not your friends anymore, maybe due to different priorities you guys have drifted apart. When we become friends with someone we have the best of intentions, but when we are apart those intentions don't always materialize. I think since your situation is probably different from your friends' it is time for you to make new ones.
2006-07-27 21:31:24 · answer #1 · answered by Stevo 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They probably think you are too busy for them now.
Don't get hurt...call them up and schedule a lunch date. Hire a sitter for that afternoon, and try not to talk too much about that precious baby. It is not that they don't care, they just may not feel as important to you as they once were.
When you go on the lunch date...take a special gift. A photo of you and your baby, or just the baby that says on the back:
To aunt (or auntie)(their name)
For example, if one of your friend's name is Ashley:
To Aunt Ashley....
This will make them feel special.
You need to make time with them too. I suggest a girl's night out (maybe a movie and dinner to a place where you have to dress up) at least once a month. This will benefit you too!!
Good luck!
Oh, and CONGRATULATIONS!
2006-07-28 04:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A friend in need is a friend indeed. First of all i dont know how ur friends were towards u but as far as ur question is concern i think u really like them and miss them very nuch. I would advice u to simply send an emal or give a call to them may they are expecting to get a response from you. Best of luck.
2006-07-28 04:41:20 · answer #3 · answered by Lucky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi first of all i'd like to congratulate u on having a baby. and now forget them all (friends) some will be in a position that they don't know about ur baby. some will be in a position that they can't visit. other than these people forget about all other persons. and in my opinion u should spend more time with the lil baby, enjoy her movements, her smile, her cry. play with her and believe me you'll forget all pains. I am telling with you experience. I've come over many obstacles in life thru this method only. every time i face a trouble i just go and play with the new born babies in the neighbour hood and bring them to my home and play with them in holidays. i make them cry and then make them laugh.
2006-07-28 05:10:34 · answer #4 · answered by Dvij 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes when you receive something really great from God, He makes sure that all the really bad thing goes out the back door, if they were true friends they wouldnt have been asking this question. just think you now have more time with your baby and to make new friends, u can mail me if you want a friend, im 24 and i also have a darling daughter we r in SA and you?? seriously, you dont need friends like that, move on
2006-07-28 04:38:33 · answer #5 · answered by mercia b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They were never true friends but merely pretenders who wasted your time and hurt your feelings. True friends are out there and you don't need to search for them because they'll come to you. At least now you can differentiate between true friends and unnescessary pain. Keep your head up and remember that your baby wants to see a happy mommy.
2006-07-28 04:31:12 · answer #6 · answered by yarisgp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To stand besides me through thick and thin.
Are your friends single? Perhaps they don't know how to deal with a baby so they may think the best thing is to stay away.
2006-07-28 04:33:47 · answer #7 · answered by sakura4eternity 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. In my oppinion, I think your worrying to much, she'll have a good reason if she was your friend, but if your still worried call her up, ask her for dinner and let her talk, then you'll have your turn.. But If Not, Its life move on... Just know that there are more people in the world than her ...;)
2006-07-28 04:31:15 · answer #8 · answered by Alyssa (no confidence) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I expect from my friends to be there for me like I am for them, to comfort in sorrow and be happy for me when times are good. I would lie down my life for my friend and he for how do I know this been there done that many times. As for you well the friends may be avoiding you unfortunately because of your husband.
2006-07-28 04:53:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See some people don't know how to appreciate friendship.
Dont worry about them i am pretty sure you dont need them
and congratulations, Iam sure you have a beautiful baby
2006-07-28 04:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by SMILEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋