2006-07-27 21:06:39 · 11 answers · asked by Alyssa (no confidence) 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I, like many others, used to be just like you. I couldn't speak in class because I was so nervous and had low confidence and it made me physically sick. I used to fake illness so I didn't have to go to school.
I couldn't talk to people in shops so I couldn't tell them what I wanted. I used to avoid going out on my own all together, I had a great group of friends but that just made it worse because I could see how they were and it made me depressed that I couldn't be that way. They used to say 'do this, do that' but they don't know how hard it is when you don't have any confidence.
I am now 16 and I have got a lot better. It wasn't friends or just trying to be happier but it was my boyfriend.
I never had a a proper boyfriend before, I just had ones that you would hold hands shyly with and then not even talk to, that was an aspect of no confidence. But I found Joe, he didn't care what I looked like, he cares about me, he'd do anything for me and he UNDERSTANDS me.
I am not saying that you should go out and find a boyfriend but what I am saying that no one can help you unless they UNDERSTAND you. So no need to worry because I went through junior school and secondary school not talking much because of fear and no confidence in myself and I only got better in the last four months of my school life.
If you are still worried because none of this applies to you then one other thing I did was realize something, granted this was when I was depressed and cried every night on my own in my bedroom but still. Anyways the thing I realized was 'who the hell are they?'. I mean chavs, emo, grungers and goths and whoever else, they don't give a sh*t what people think about them and I don't care what people think about me. I should be able to do what ever I want without feeling self conscious about anything, what can they do to me? They can embarrass me, humiliate me but that's it, I don't give a sh*t.
I hope that helped you. You don't have to worry.
2006-07-27 21:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋
If this has been happening because you've been 14 then u favor to pass and search for help, pass on your medical doctors. do not pay interest to surely each and every man or woman else except your family individuals or your surgeon, u won't be able to continuously believe your friends. overlook about each and every hurtful remark they say n in the experience that they bully then you definitely purely chortle and prepare your no longer afflicted. U shud help your self to spice up your own self-worth connect a gymnasium in case your no longer happy with your self n prepare them haters. in the experience that they r ingesting sweet n pizza n ur ingesting fruit n water then chortle at them n make a funny tale n say properly even as i'm older ile be the single with the staggering in good structure body and also you all will be fat from the way your ingesting. arise for your self and stand tall.
2016-10-15 07:18:13 · answer #2 · answered by maget 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out and make friend, join clubs, learn something new. I know it will be hard at first, but the moment you break that hard wall, u will be confident about urself. we all are insecure one way or the other. but best thing is not to feed that insecurity. fight it, do something about it. its always when we did something we never expected we could can we be truly confident. so dont worry too much. just do it... no matter the consequences, at least u tried. there will be rough and tough spots, but believe in urself. Just be yourself and people will like you. each of us is a unique individual; no one is right and no one is wrong.
2006-07-27 21:24:48 · answer #3 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First how old are you? If teen or pre-teen relax things get better with time. Second, always remember that average is good. Don't compare yourself to the rich and famous. Also, don't assume that everyone else is doing better, everyone has problems and failures. Unless you are with them 24/7 you may not see it. Third, relax.
2006-07-27 21:14:17 · answer #4 · answered by rehabob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i was just like you once, but then i got over that, all you need to do is get you some great friends that are there for you and you should always tell yourself that you are you and if people dont like it then thats their problemjust as long as you except yourself for you then who cares what other people think. dont let people try to change you, cause my mom is always trying to change but i always tell her that im not trying to impress nobody i mean if you like what you see then im happy for you but if you dont then thats your problem because im just being me, and make sure you get yourself some real friends now real friends are people who will tell you the truth no matter what and at the same time take the criticm that you give them and not get mad at you no matter what you say. you can email me if you ever need some one to talk to.my email is: akialatrice@yahoo.com
2006-07-27 21:20:41 · answer #5 · answered by b_cool032692_cb4ever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheer up!!! just thank GOD for what u have and make the best out of it!!! go buy some hot undies that always bosts my confidence!!....lol....mail me at h_nowatzki@yahoo.com if u need some one too talk too.
2006-07-27 21:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by loves2run:) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends with a sense of humor is probably the best remedy.
it's hard to find good friends.
2006-07-27 21:11:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
First what brought your confidence down...acepting the problem is half way there....
2006-07-27 21:32:50 · answer #8 · answered by kida_w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first why is your confidence low?
2006-07-27 21:49:20 · answer #9 · answered by fucck_yo_couch_nigga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not a question.
2006-07-27 21:10:42 · answer #10 · answered by Binder D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋