i m a working and married women, somtimes i really frustrated with my husband. he don't want his mother to do anything he just want her to take rest always. he wants me to wake up early moring to finish the house related work and go office and after that back to house work. And i m not able to wake up early to finish the things. Plz tell me who is wrong me or my husband. Somtimes i fell like suicide or leave home. Can a woman leave alone?????
2006-07-27 19:55:17 · 16 answers · asked by simran s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You shouldnt think leaving alone for now. thats the last solution.why dont you try to talk to your husband?
2006-07-27 19:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u seem to be in a dilemma that many of the indian women have to face . do not pressurise urself too much and take it easy . Talk to ur husband about it in a positive manner u must be close to him to talk about the issue . Well the other thing u can do is to judge ur husband before talking to him about this problem. It is indeed tough to manage the affairs like this . It will be more hard when u plan to have kids . For now try talking to him and judging him to persuade him that u also need help an du can give my example. me and my wife are working but we manage the house on a alternate day and give eachj other ample time to rest . Although it does not mean we do not fight but it is part of a married life . bye for now think psitively and giv ethisd situation some time.
2006-07-28 03:03:31 · answer #2 · answered by vikass101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a totally unfair situation! He shouldn't expect you to do everything around the house. what does he do all day? When are you ever allowed a break? some free time to do what you want instead of slaving for him and his mother? Sounds like he is very controlling.
Yes, a woman can live alone, many many do. I know that this situation is harsh and unfair, but please dont committ suicide. it's not worth it. You can always either tell him about it and be stern that you are not to be treated as a slave or you can leave. I hope that you can come to a decision on this without the thoughts of suicide. If you are feeling this, then you need to get some help. soon........email me if you need some emotional support and please stop thinking about suicide. butterfly41834@yahoo.com
2006-07-28 03:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by Tracey E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of coarse a woman can live alone...This has to be madning for you, what are you the slave of the house? Live in maid? You need to put your foot down, you life is worth more than keep up after everyone. Take a vacation, do something nice for yourself.
2006-07-28 03:13:16 · answer #4 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your religious leader, or a counselor. With or without your husband. Don't do anything you may regret.
You are right to want help with the house work, but try to talk it out with your husband. Tell him how you feel. PRAY
2006-07-28 02:58:45 · answer #5 · answered by i_forget_myself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm .. many men are like that ... hopefully you will have sons so they will care for you as your husband cared for his. A wife is to help and play a big role in the family ... be nice to your mother in law, as she is also "you mother". Try enjoying your work so that you will be happy, any how you still have to do it...right?
2006-07-28 03:36:28 · answer #6 · answered by Mazlan R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! dont kill yourself! your husband is sooo wrong. Please dont kill yourself!!!!!!!!! Oh my, i think you might want to seek some counseling for this. I think you should confront your husband and let him know how you feel. Tell him you simply cannot handle a ton of work all the time. I am assuming he sits on his @ss? Yea most likely...men men men. Think they can control women like this. Well, they cant! and its wrong. If he cant understand you cant handle a lot of work he is selfish and inconsiderate. Don't be sad either. I hate seeing people sad. It makes me sad. Please take care of yourself and talk to your husband about this. Bye, and God Bless!
2006-07-28 03:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by cryztalwater92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Simran , i understand. It is the problem of almost every working married lady in the subcontinent. I would suggest that if it is possible, you should quit the job and give more time to your family at home. I don't know why they forget that, "Saas bhee kabhi bahu thee".
2006-07-28 03:00:48 · answer #8 · answered by Awais 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Team up with your mother in law..be nice to her and make her understand it is difficult for you to do everything.
Find out what your job means to both of them.How important it is for them and use your job as a pluspoint in dealing with them.
IF you have kids ask mother in law to share some kids related work she will be happy to do
Ask our hubby to share some work..Let him understand how difficult it is to do everything..
2006-07-28 04:16:40 · answer #9 · answered by kulkarnidg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is being extremely unfair. I take it your mother-in-law lives with you. If she does, she needs to move out, now. I wouldn't put up with this behavior at all. Tell him to knock it off, or your leaving.
2006-07-28 03:03:51 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋