When I was younger I dated this guy, lost my virginity to him, and he cheated on me a year later. We went our separate ways, and shortly after, I found that I was attracted to his younger brother. Well, I married him ten years ago. As the years go by I find myself dreaming at night about their older brother (who is like ten years older than me). Is there something wrong with me?
2006-07-27 19:38:44 · 16 answers · asked by ~SSIRREN~ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Whoa, let me rephrase. I was fifteen when I dated the first brother, nineteen when I started dating my husband (of whom I love more than anything in the world). Just to clarify, I hate the oldest brother, always have. I just don't understand why I have dreams about him. Consciencely, the only person I love and am attracted to is my husband.
2006-07-27 20:05:44 · update #1
You are really too much , no harm to fantasize , but please control your desire , or you may find no place for yourself , do what ever you want to do , but safe and keep your married life intact .
2006-07-27 19:44:16 · answer #1 · answered by your noon 5 · 10⤊ 1⤋
There is a really good movie out there that is about 10 years old called Inventing the Abbots. Its about this guy who is love with one of the Abbot daughters and his brother dates and sleeps with jsut about all of them and the emotional toll it takes on them all. I would suggest checking it out. Its not a dirty film, it can be found in the drama sections and stars Jenniffer Connely and Liv Tyler. It might help you gain a little perspective and insight. Some movies do that for me. So what if its Hollywood, it gets you thinking.
2006-07-28 03:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control your dreams at night, but you can control your thoughts during the day, which could contribute to your dreams at night. You remember how much it hurt when the first brother, as I shall refer to him, cheated on you. Don't hurt your husband the same way, even if only in your head.
2006-07-28 02:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's unusual to be attracted to brothers, because they probably have many qualities in common. HOWEVER. Please try to keep a lid on it and keep it to yourself. If you do anything to act on this attraction, it will not just hurt your husband, but may damage or destroy his relationship with his brother. Focus on your marriage, that is the commitment you made for life.
2006-07-28 02:55:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing wrong just don't act on your dreams...lol The guys in that family must be damn HOT!!! *looks around* pppssttt....hey...how do i get in that family...lol
sorry..i have to ask you something...do you ever tell your husband "that's not how your brother did it" or have you notice any similarities in there behavior?....just curious :)
2006-07-28 02:42:40 · answer #5 · answered by Fat Kids Are Hard To Kidnap 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be happy that your husband loves you, don't ruin it all on a fantasy.
2006-07-28 02:41:29 · answer #6 · answered by revoltix 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uuuh yeah. You from the south...like to keep it in the family.
I wonder how about getting all three together and see what they think.
2006-07-28 02:42:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
slapper,family splitting ***** and that just your good points,family parties must be fun with you chaseing all the men,get them all in the sack at once or learn to shut your legs for once
2006-07-28 02:44:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yor sound like my brothers ex you need a hobby
2006-07-28 02:53:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get of that vicious incestuous circle!
2006-07-28 02:42:00 · answer #10 · answered by PatricksMom* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋