i am in a long distance relationship and my fiance doesn't call me that often does he still love me?

Question

I have tried to talk to him but he gets angry. He says he loves me but he is not reliable anymore and he doesn't talk about our wedding or make plans. He use to be so much more loving. I am supposed to go and see him but I don't want to if he continues like this.

Answer 1

You should go and get to the bottom of the issues. You need to plan your life.

Answer 2

If you feel uncomfortable, make sure this is what you want to do. It sounds to me that you would be better off dropping him.

I know when my husband and I was dating, we were in different towns and it was long distance, and it was before his parents had the plan where for a certain price, you can talk all you want. I had a cell phone that had free min. after eight o'clock and so I'd call him. We would do that most every night, some nights, he was just so tired that we didn't talk long. Even a few times he fell asleep and I may have fell asleep once too, on the phone. But the point is, we talked a lot.

Now, I know sometimes you don't have 'free' long distance and you may be under money strain, but you should still talk at least a few times a week.

The more I think about, I think you would be better off without him. But you may want to sit down with him, (over the phone, or face to face or something) and talk to him and get to the bottem of this.

But I can assure you, marriage is hard, I mean it's not easy. It is combining two lives and it takes work. After you get married, everything will not be just fine. You will have to work at it. Some stuff will be tougher. But both of you need to be ready to be commited before you take the plunge.

It will be better off breaking it off now then to wait and wishing you were not married. So I wish you the best and I didn't want to try to scare you, I'm just giving you some facts.

Answer 3

If I were you, I will go and see him and ask him the bottom of the story. What if he's really busy with his work and have no time to respond to you? Or maybe he's too stress up with his work there? Then you'll lose someone that you really love. He's been that far and you can't even know what he's doing. Go and find out yourself rather than guessing here and there. If you found out that he is no more interested in you, then just leave him alone there and carry on with your life here. Why make yourself so miserable? Every action you take will have the consequences. Give yourself a chance to see if he can be your husband before you make any decision.

Answer 4

Where is yr trust ?Am sure both of u still make other friends. Go out with yr friends as long as u r not unfaithful i dont c a problem . Show himthat u still trust and love him. People by nature do not like 2 be falsely accussed of something they did not do. U become more loving. Y wait 4 him 2 make the 1st move.

Answer 5

Sounds like he may be having second thoughts about your wedding or that he is hiding something from you. The fact that he is blowing you off, not calling you, and not making plans for your future aren't good indicators that he is in love with you or that he will make a good spouse.
Since he won't talk to you on the phone, you should go and see him. You need to talk to him face to face about how he feels and whats going on to have changed his outlook and feelings towards you and your future together.

Answer 6

Guys are like that once you are engaged cause sometimes they get SUPER nervous, but I think the best thing you could do is see him, after all when you are face to face you can talk to him more easily, and can think better about what you wanna do
I moved to Germany with my bf but we had already talked about getting married and all, BUT once I was here, yeah he proposed and everything, but he wasnt doing any paper work or anything, until once i told him Im going home, Im not pushing you to marry me if you dont want, im done, the next day he came home with ALL the permissions we needed to get married!!
So I would actually say go to see him and see whats going on, talk about it and make the choice whether you want to stay with him or break off the engagement, dont worry if you have to break it off, I did it once and Im more than glad I did, trust your feelings! Good luck!

Answer 7

dont mind insensitive people like jennifer,miss know it all B,your worth more than the so called advice she's lets say,trying to give you.nobody[except maybe her]likes or should be treated like crap.if you feel like going to see him and for once and for all make a fresh start or draw a line underneath it,and move on for yourself,only you knows whats really going on,we only hear bits of it on answers,so make up your mind if he's any use to you and if YOU LOVE HIM,and if so have your talk and take it from there,best of luck,you dont deserve to be treated bad no matter who you are.good luck,hope it all works out!

Answer 8

if you feel that the satisfaction of the planning or being with his is gone then I would say get on with your life and find someone who is going ot marry you, help plan the wedding, and no be selfish or angry when asked a very sensitive question.

Answer 9

He's done with you...he just hasn't got the balls to say it to you yet....he's seeing someone else and you are nothing more than an "annoyance" to him....but if this new chickie doesnt' work out he wants to keep you for backup.

Dump him and go find someone in your hometown to break your heart and treat you like crap....at least if you get one that lives closer you might get a couple free dinners and a few movies out of the deal.....

Answer 10

I could see having a long-distance bf, but not fiancee...not enough commitment and time spent together. If he's being rude to you it seems that he's not sure what he wants. I hope you guys get everything worked out.