He has always used his job for his escape. He can't call because of his job, he can't email because of his job. He can't be emotionally supportive, because of his job. Everything I need, he can't give because of his job. The only thing his job allows is finances, and that is just not enough. I need him for other things too, but his job is his reason for not being able to give them to me. I just think that when a man hangs up the phone in his fiance's ear without a single word of love spoken, there is something going on that shouldn't be. Someone please advise me as to what I can do. I know that my mind is my own, but sometimes the words of others can help find the path of a better day. Thank you!!!
2006-07-27 19:13:37 · 6 answers · asked by TwistedInTexas 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he does work overseas, my guess is he is telling the truth. My father worked overseas for months at a time and he would often not be able to call just because he was so busy. Trust him on this one. If you are genuinally concerned, bring it to his attention. Try asking "Hey why haven't we spent the same amount of time together?" or even tell him that him working overseas is really making you upset and ask if he could find another job, or get moved around so he does work in your area. Just trust him on this one.
2006-07-27 19:19:37 · answer #1 · answered by amshamah 3 · 11⤊ 1⤋
if i were you, i'd start by learning all about a good relationship perhaps in books. then when you have more concrete values and perspective, you can approach your hub with some inteligent and informed ideas and the courage to confront the unloving behaviors you mention. by the way, studying relationships will improve your self-esteem which improves your back-bone to deal with him. you might also examine the features of codependency and see if this is part of your problem in communicating with him.
2006-07-27 20:59:50 · answer #2 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you nagging him about "his job"? Look girl, find the book "proper care and feeding of husbands". You WILL find all your answers. STOP nagging him. If he is he is. You are never going to know for sure...( well not now anyway ) And if he's not, your pushing him to it with your lack of trust.
2006-07-27 19:46:10 · answer #3 · answered by i_forget_myself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't find any way to make things work then move on.... someone WILL appreciate you and show you love like you deserve. Good luck.
2006-07-27 19:16:48 · answer #4 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have no idea what he's all involved in. What you see is what you get --- and if you're not liking it, reconsider if you should marry him. I doubt it will improve.
2006-07-27 19:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl take him to Maury show.
2006-07-27 20:54:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋