We are still a young couple (mid-twenties) and I cant figure out how to make myself new again and regain his passion towards me.
2006-07-27 19:10:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We are still a young couple (mid-twenties) and I cant figure out how to make myself new again and regain his passion towards me. We have been married for about a month, have lived togeather for over a year and been a couple for almost 2 years. We have no romantic life in the bedroom because he says he never feels like it. Is there a way to change that? He used to want it all the time, even when he had less free time than he does now.
2006-07-27 20:30:40 · update #1
You don't have to "reinvent" yourself to spark some interest.. what you have to do is -play the game-... I understand what you might be going through.. You probably got married, and you were so happy, that you tried to fit the mold of the perfect wife.. you probably also ended up making that your life revolves around him.. now what you have to think about, is that he fell in love with you then for who you were.. changing yourself to accomodate all his whims is not the way to go.. he has to feel a little jelousy, he has to deal with the fact that you are not available 24/7, you have to have a life of your own.. go take that dance class you wanted.. make yourself a little unavailable, when he misses you, and can't take you for granted.. he will be interested again
2006-07-27 19:20:56 · answer #1 · answered by verito 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go back to the basics of what really fired the two of you up to begin with. Start going out on "dates" with eachother, go out to places where you can have fun together and with friends sometimes. It's important for you both to have some time alone to reconnect.
You might also try some different things in the bedroom. Like maybe get some nice lingerie or do something spontaneous like driving somewhere and getting a hotel room for the night. Little things will go a long way in spicing things up. Good luck!
2006-07-28 02:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if he's trying to figure out the same?
It's normal to adjust after a few years of marriage. Everything is not always hot, hot, hot. There are lots of ideas out there, have fun doing research. And I hope he values the marriage enough to try to do the same for you!
2006-07-28 02:37:20 · answer #3 · answered by Lake Lover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sad, sad, sad! if you get busy and start studying relationship books, all those problems will be answered and you'll acquire the skills needed to have a wonderful, exciting, happy, loving and erotic relationship! just get going learning HOW to make a good relationship - it's fun, easy and very rewarding.
2006-07-28 04:03:48 · answer #4 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Serve Serve Serve.......
& Sex Sex Sex ( try something new and let him know that he's your man and that you truly desire him) it may take time...but it does work!!!
Something about the mid twenties....guys seem to still be trying to find out who they really are....so they say...i think its more like who they want to be and how they want to be....
it probably has nothing to do with you.
time may pass and his passion spark.
2006-07-28 02:47:47 · answer #5 · answered by Bristow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to date someone else and get some new ideas for the bedroom....i'm avail for the next couple of hours!!!
2006-07-28 13:19:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dress up like his favorite final fantasy character. AHAHAHA
Your own fault for getting married too soon.
2006-07-28 02:13:10 · answer #7 · answered by Lothario 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he's coming into your room, take off all your clothes and try to have sex.
If you don't like that approach, try chatting with him. I guess.
2006-07-28 02:14:55 · answer #8 · answered by Master Chen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spice it up! Be imaginative and creative.
2006-07-28 02:17:06 · answer #9 · answered by candlelight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all they have to do for me is say baby and take off thier clothes and i am interested
2006-07-28 02:15:23 · answer #10 · answered by pat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋