my exhusband and he is my baby daddy.and he just wont go anywhere i want to let him go without hurting his feelings
2006-07-27 18:57:59 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can't control someone else's feelings.
But the best thing you can do is be honest, be firm, and be direct.
Since you have a child, will counselling help? Are you giving up too easily? Children need parents to do all in their power to keep that relationship together and strong and healthy because kids do better in a two parent environment.
But if you've exhausted all options, then just be firm and direct. Set a day or else move out yourself and set up a visitation schedule.
You have control over your own life. Don't allow someone else to make decisions over it.
2006-07-27 19:01:07 · answer #1 · answered by lily 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you've tried all the good methods:
1. Tell him you want to marry him!
2. Tell him you can't wait to have his baby.
3. Slip up and get pregnant and keep the baby.
4. Kick his A$$ out!
Have you tried telling him you need to get councling and he has to go with you? That's liable to send him running for the nearest exit.
Have you tried telling him your new boyfriend, Conan the Barberian, is gonna rip him limb from limb for the doesn't put some space between the two of you?
2006-07-27 19:04:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, he is not a boyfriend, he is your ex-husband. You have to decide what it is you really want. You want him gone...or not? Try to answer that question when you are not in the heat of any moment. And remember, he is the father of that child you love, and maybe he loves it too. If the answer is yes, you still wish him gone, find out if he has been in this sort of mess before.... (if he has domestic violence issues against him, it is public record, you can find this out by a few questions, if you know where he has lived). Once you have this background, you need to sit back and ask yourself again, "do I really want him gone". You only state in your message, "i want to let him go, but I don't want to hurt his feelings".....Did you ask this question because you found out that he was with another woman?.....If you don't want to hurt his feelings, that means that you consider his feelings worth not hurting. And maybe, he is a good guy. You need to ask yourself why you are here, why you asked this question, and whether you really wish to to "let him go" or not. And realize, little sister, this answer is from a man.... who hopes to be fair. ... so, once you know what it is you really want, do what you need to.......
2006-07-27 19:35:41 · answer #3 · answered by kurt h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will ALWAYS hurt their feelings when you end things! My bf and I are having a horrible, rocky time of it and have been for almost 3 months now, but he is still stubbornly unwilling to just let the thing die. The only way to deal with a man is to put your foot down and say "this is how things are going to be."
2006-07-27 19:01:47 · answer #4 · answered by Cat Loves Her Sabres 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If diplomacy doesn't work you may have to hurt his feelings because he just isn't getting it. You can tell him that he is a contributing factor to global warming, defoliates the atmosphere and makes the flowers wilt anytime he is near you. You can tell him that you may send terrorists by night to shove bananas in the muffler of his car. Good luck,
2006-07-27 19:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get all clingy, possessive and desperate. Ask him to call you every day and get all hurt and incriminating when he doesn't. When he's finally had enough, keep calling him all hours of the day and night to tell him how desperate you are for his company. He will most likely change his phone number, and you'll be off the hook, so to speak.
2006-07-27 19:03:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will always have a connection because of the baby...but if the relationship is over, he needs to move on...don't worry about hurting his feelings....because no matter how you say it or what you do...it is going to hurt...tell him it is time for him to move on...since you are not married, live your own life and he will get the message....
2006-07-27 19:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by intelligentbooklady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asked him to meet u at the mall and show up with another guy ,then tell him it over between the two of you and you are moving on and he sholud do the same.I know it sound mean but he will get the picture.--good luck.
2006-07-27 19:02:47 · answer #8 · answered by mrlex42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just tell him the way you feel. And give him lots of visitation rights to your baby. Tell him it will never work if your not in love with him. It will eventually fizzle out.
2006-07-27 19:02:24 · answer #9 · answered by kk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well u can always try ignoring him, that usually works.
OR why don't u refer to the authorities, like the police at ur area.
Just explain to them the situation and possibily get a court order.
It's a bit of a hassle, but at least its legal!
Please don't try something silly like killing him!!!
2006-07-27 19:14:06 · answer #10 · answered by MeGotBalls™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋