My boyfriend loves me, and we are compatible in so many ways. But he is realistic, and I long for passion and romance. He just doesn't get that. He also doesn't want to have sex. He's a wonderful person, but very detached and unemotional. He know I think that of him. Can he change?
2006-07-27 18:55:41 · 21 answers · asked by HB 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We are in the similar situation my pal.. My bf also like yours, so logic, realistic, dumb, stupid..
But we had sex, about twice a mth, but i feel he does not really like it. He enjoyed but i feel he can enjoy more than this. I love guy to be romantic, like a surprise or what, but he never give me a surprise lol. Like this year is my 21 bday, he said he is going to bring me to a beef restaurant, but never tell me where is it. But it's already not a surprise already.. Haiz
Guys just does not share feelings with us, so pathetic. We need to have feeling talks agree? U need to let him know the problems, these are bid serious problems. Let him know that u wish him to care about your emotional and be romantic when he can. As for the sex, u have to wait for the right moment, when both of u are in the mood, play some romantic music, dim lights, no interruption, u can start by watching a movie(no need to be porn la).. When me & him warch a movie, we cannot help to go into the mood (;
Hey really hope u can work it out.. Anymore prob can e-mail me
2006-07-27 19:14:04 · answer #1 · answered by a V a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over time he may change. Maybe he had a very bad relationship in the past that is causing him to be so detached, like say that maybe in the past he was very loving and romantic and the girl just stampped his heart out and now he is just afraid to risk it all agian and so he is testing the waters to see if this one is the real deal. You never know. Just give him some time. As far as him not wanting to have sex, it may be that he is trying to wait to see if you are the right one for him before he takes that plunge. or maybe trying to wait for marriage, you never know.
Best of luck...........just give it some time.
2006-07-28 02:00:34 · answer #2 · answered by Tracey E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is simple: make him your best friend since he and you are so compatible. The fact that he respects you will help the friendship work. Then get in a relationship with someone who actually wants to have sex, you can be romantic with and share life goals with.
2006-07-28 02:35:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend also, is not very romantic. We have been together for almost a year and so far, I have not seen any signs of him changing. In my experience, people can change, but they have to want to first. Your boyfriend probably doesn't see this as something that needs changing about himself, so I doubt that he ever will. I tried for awhile to change my man, but gave up after I finally realized that I was running into a brick wall.
2006-07-28 02:07:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i was married to one like that...and it is not a good thing to be with a detached and unemotional person...it can get very lonely...
i think that men like that are very selfish people and that does not make for a good mate...
he will never change because he can't...and he doesn't want too....so think hard about this relationship...
2006-07-28 02:00:24 · answer #5 · answered by intelligentbooklady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why ask someone to change? Would they be themselves if they did change? If you have an issue with your man, and he's not going to work on it, tell him how serious you are about it. Even if it means leaving him. Don't short change yourself. Or you're gonna deal with this until you go crazy. Be upfront and honest with him. If he's unresponsive, show him you mean business. There is plenty of us guys out here that are romantic, and that want passion too. (Even if we won't admit it publicly)
2006-07-28 02:06:34 · answer #6 · answered by DJ Sliced Monkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he can change if he not interesting in some one else my friend man was cheating on her and she was wondering why she was not getting sex come to find out he was giving it to another woman but it could be different here with you.He may be sick or over worked or need to have some type of sex help.
2006-07-28 02:01:13 · answer #7 · answered by Happy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's definitely the wrong guy for you! Whatever you do, don't marry him. You'll never be happy. If there were just one area in which the two of you differ, I'd say work on it. But this just sounds like too much to overcome.
2006-07-28 02:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably a good thing your bf is not romantic alot of times men that are romantic and smoothe talking are cheaters so you can look at it as a positive thing
2006-07-28 02:39:34 · answer #9 · answered by sashaaspen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe he can change but meanwhile you need to get to work on your self and learn all you can about a good relationship from books or whatever and then you'll be equipped to do something about your relationship.
2006-07-28 04:09:44 · answer #10 · answered by jimrich 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋