that the baby is not hs. he's in arkansas & im in california. he says he loves me, and he still wants to be with me ( even tho he's hurt and angry). he told me he slept w/ someone once since all this happened. do you think he'll still want to be with me when the baby gets here??? or should i just prepare for the worst. I love him to death and he cries and says he loves me to death, but if its not his then he's not going to be with me.i need help
2006-07-27 18:50:21 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
WHile you can certainly be forgiven, the truth is there are some things that just cannot be fixed. This is one of them. You have made an adult decision using childlike philosophy. Some things that we break cannot be put back together. You now have to wait for the blood tests and then he has to make some decisions. Shall I advise you to keep your pants on until you decide to get married?
2006-07-27 18:59:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
iF HE IS WILLING TO STAND BESIDE YOU AND SUPPORT YOU THROUGH YOUR PREGNANCY.......I would say go for it. But the two of you need to talk about it and make sure this is what you BOTH want for your future. What about the other guy...is he going to be a daddy too. My husband is not my son's biological father but I had decided I didn't need anyone to raise my child. I was going to do it on my own and then I met my husband and we have been married for 4 years now and have a daughter together also. I guess what I am saying is give him a chance but don't shut the other guy out unless he is not responsible enough and will only cause you and the baby more heartache. A baby changes EVERYTHING in a good way!!
2006-07-27 19:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by jdeamom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ve hurt the poor dude to much you stupid. If he is away cannot u afford some toys or something at least take some precaution when u cheating. I dislike all those stupid slut with no brain just let someone bang them and left. You must be blond
Better forget the dude cause he will never forget what u did if u stay together. Go and confess to a priest.
2006-07-27 19:02:54 · answer #3 · answered by islandboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and the bf can find out the answer to that before the baby is born. That would be the best option for both you and the baby..
He'll always be distant from you and may include the baby in later years as something pushed on him.
2006-07-27 18:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to all these people here hurling stones at you - everyone messes up, and you sound like you regret it and want the best possible outcome.
If he still says he loves you and wants to be with you, then that's a good sign.
I guess there is not much you can do until your baby is born except try and win back his trust and work through your problems - good luck
2006-07-27 18:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortuantley, it's something that you are going to have to live with. even though he slept with someone and you did too doesnt make it any better, two wrongs doesnt make a right. he may still want to be with you and if he does it will take time for him to adjust to the situation if it isn't his. But, if it is his, then he will always still be leary about you cheating on him. It's a tough situation and I hope that you find a solution to it.
Also, after the baby is born i do suggest a blood test to make positivley sure who it belongs too.
2006-07-27 18:57:15 · answer #6 · answered by Tracey E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Prepare for the worst.
2) Try to get your bf involve with your pregnancy and baby.. Make him feel like a daddy.
3) If that dosent work, you've already prepared for the worst.
2006-07-27 18:56:59 · answer #7 · answered by I am Male 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Jerry Springer. Or Maury. At least get paid for screwing up. On a serious side of things.... LEARN FROM THIS. Never do it to someone again. Cause now you have a child that's gonna depend on you. And I'm sure you don't wanna do it alone. And again.... LEARN FROM THIS.
2006-07-27 18:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by DJ Sliced Monkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you baby girl, but if he dosen't want to be with you after the baby gets here, Keep ya head up baby girl and move on there is more fish in the sea!!!!!!!!!!!
But if yall really love each other yall will work it out!!!!!!!!
p.s KEEP YA HEAD UP BABY GIRL!!!!
2006-07-27 18:59:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
people that love some one do not cheat. You should not have cheated. I would prepare for him to be leaving you. Cheating is never justified or right and you know that.
2006-07-27 21:10:02 · answer #10 · answered by Darryl L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋