I am leaving home for the first time to go 700 miles away to college. I am very excited, but at the same time very sad and scared ( I have broken down and cried a couple times in private, and i know i will when my parents leave me) and im not the type of person who ever cries, and i am a male. i have thought about staying behind and going to college while living at home at a community college, even though i am only a week away from moving in. I love my parents very much, and i just dont know if i can make it without them. I know even if i do stay for a couple years, it will still be just as hard to leave them. Anyway i dont really have anybody i can talk to about this, because i dont want my parents to know how scared and sad i am...this is kind of embarrassing, but i just need someone to help me. thanks.
2006-07-27 18:45:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
Leaving for college or university is ALWAYS a bit on the scary side.....ok some times it's A LOT on the scary side....but...
Phone cards are cheap....and if your parents are computer literate and you have a computer at school you can still talk to them a lot!
You will make some AMAZING friends some of whom you'll still be friends with in 50 years....
It's part of growing up....you can't stay home with mom and dad forever....
There are lots of one week long study breaks and you'll be able to go home and visit.
It's gonna be great.....as soon as you get there and get settled in a bit and get rid of the "new situation jitters".
HONEST!!!!
2006-07-27 18:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I felt exactly that way when I left to join the US Army right out of high school. Since it was my first time away from home (for an extended time anyway), it was quite hard for me to adjust.
Having people yelling at me constantly certainly didn't help either. Luckily friends and family wrote to me, so that really helped, and I did eventually get used to it.
It's hard at first, but try not to think about it too much, and you'll be fine after a few weeks. I'm sure lots of other people feel the same way you do, and they adjust well for the most part.
2006-07-27 18:50:34 · answer #2 · answered by komodo_gold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You remind me of the days when i first left my home at the age of 12 years.I cried a lot and cant stand for a while in my new hostel.But i managed it somehow by God's grace.I was alone for nearly 5 years and now i am going to college and i am going to be alone.Dont worry about this and i was also very sad in the beginning .But ,i controlled myself.When u get friends in your college ,you will forget your home sick and you will enjoy your real life.Dont think of your parents daily and you will feel like crying.I am telling for your good and i am not against you.It is all a part of life.Be bold and you are a man!!!Come on...!listen to me.I am too going to enter college and i still feel something in my heart.It as all common for all of us and we should control it.In later stage ,we should only take care of our parents .So,be prepared now itself.I can understand your feelings
2006-07-27 19:47:14 · answer #3 · answered by MaxMetallica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You almost made me cry! Seriously! I have an 8 year old son and know that when the time comes, he will someday leave us too! I feel so bad for you. I know that as a parent, I would want my son to feel "ready, excited and eager" to leave. But I know that my son will probably feel as you do. My husband and I are very loving, nurturing parents and that is what you must have. Please talk to them...know that their door will always be open for you (I assume) and remember that almost everyone feels this way when leaving home. Good luck.
2006-07-27 18:50:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has to eventually leave their parents or be apart from their parents. It's part of becoming independent and learning how to fend for yourself. You can always call them every single day if you need some help or just chit chat with them and ask how everyone is doing. I'm sure they'll miss you just as much as you will them and they'll look forward to hearing from you everyday:).
Don't worry, you'll be fine. Just ask for help from someone if you need any. It's going to be a great learning process for you:).
2006-07-27 18:54:37 · answer #5 · answered by Soficetica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not to late to change your mind. Parents are very special. It's great you want to be around them. Tell them you are having second-thoughts, and you would prefer to go to a community college. Not many children appreciate their parents the way you do, what a joy!
2006-07-27 18:52:11 · answer #6 · answered by newyorkgal71 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry you are so upset, moving out and going to college is supposed to be exciting and fun. Just remember you are leaving to better yourself and that your parents are always going to be there for you, even if they are far away.
2006-07-27 18:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by rooster040473 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be scared or embarrassed it's a part of growing up!!
enjoy and study it will go by faster then you think!!and think of all the good life long friends you will make and the career you will have..there is so much to look 4ward to when you r done....it goes by so fast...and don't be embarrassed to let them know that you r a little apprehensive about this change in your life....best of luck to you and be good don't fall in to the wrong crowd
2006-07-27 19:02:32 · answer #8 · answered by meemeemee40 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st you should not be embaresed for feeling espcially when it comes 2 u loving ur folks. Do this and go with the thought of making them proud. do ur best and you'll be fine you can alays go back hm and call ne time rite?
2006-07-27 18:56:19 · answer #9 · answered by Sketch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh no ra
since u are a male u should be bold enough to face all the problems. parents are the one and only persons in the world who sacrifice their life for their children . i think ur parents wish to see u in a good position. if not wat is the need of sending u to such a distant place.? they will be having the ssame affection as u have. it is ur life. think like tat . parents will not come throughout ur life. u should not get spoonfeeded ok? positive thoughts are the wings of success. so u think tat it is ur life and decide urself.
all the best . send me the message wat u did after reading my meeg. i mean wat u decided if time permits ok?
2006-07-27 18:54:05 · answer #10 · answered by reethi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋