I welcome all opinions. Conversation is more interesting when many different possibilities are discussed. Peace.
2006-07-27 18:44:44 · 23 answers · asked by frogspeaceflower 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I sometimes like when people disagree with my ideas because it introduces me to new ways of thinking. If I can discuss the issue with them, it usually leads to an entertaining conversation. And I'm humble enough to accept when I am wrong or need to rethink something.
I don't like it when people disagree with everything I say just because they are mad or don't like me. They are usually upset about something that has nothing to do with the topic at hand. They just use the topic as a battleground for their feelings, without really resolving the deeper issue.
On the flip side, I like to disagree with people when I think they are blatantly incorrect or illogical. But most of the people I've talked to are not as humble as me. They may try to drag me onto the aforementioned battlefield. So my dissent can backfire.
2006-07-27 18:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by D.A. S 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how able I am to accept different possibilities, and also how important the person's opinion is to my happiness. It may have to do with how my own opinion is linked to my sense of identity.
If I'm having a discussion about something that's interesting to me, but doesn't directly affect my life (e.g., whether or not Pluto should be defined as a planet), then an exchange of ideas is invigorating.
If I'm having an emotionally charged argument about something very important to me, like gay rights, racial equality, or corporal punishment, I hate when people disagree with me. I think it's because I partially define my identity by how I stand on issues like this, and when people disagree, I feel personally threatened. On an objective level, I can respect their right to their own opinion, but I feel that I'll judge them harshly as people, and that makes me uncomfortable.
The disagreement is only threatening, and therefore a problem, when it comes from an important source. If Ann Coulter and I disagree, it won't keep me up at night. If my best friend and I disagree about something I think is fundamentally right or wrong, I hate it, because I know it's something that we'll have to work through for a long time, and because it's hard for me to accept that someone that I love can believe something that I don't.
2006-07-28 02:01:43 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh definitely. It's good for the mind, the ego, people notice just how clever you are by disagreeing and giving your opinion. Through disagreements you learn a lot just from people's opinions and how they think, it's very interesting. I do it all the time at the office. Agreeing all the time gets a bit boring.
2006-07-28 02:34:27 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdivine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course I don't like it when someone disagrees with me. However, sometimes a discussion or argument can be more enjoyable than when everyone just nods their heads in agreement.
I'm not so closed minded as to totally discount someone else's views just because they don't coincide with my views.
I also don't enter into an argument or debate thinking I will instantaneously change someone mind (though a miracle could happen... someday).
2006-07-28 01:52:07 · answer #4 · answered by Shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I really don't. I guess that I know everything and that no one else's opinion counts. I am so stubborn and that is a lot of my trouble. I really like it when my opinion is right. I guess I feel more powerful if I can inflict my opinion on someone and really think it is the only right opinion. My husband and I disagree a lot and it causes a lot of conflict because both of us think we are always right.
2006-07-28 01:52:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It mostly depends on the person disagreeing with me and the opinion he/she is throwing.
Although I will always accept constructive criticisms, when people disagree with me and are not tactful or careful of what they say, we usually end up arguing. If the person says his/her disagreement in a very opinionated matured way, then I'd be able to accept it.
2006-07-28 01:57:52 · answer #6 · answered by Busy Diyosa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the subject matter and the tone of the conversation. generally i prefer opinions that differ from my own because if all opinions were the same there wouldn't be much to discuss.
2006-07-28 01:49:18 · answer #7 · answered by jbslass 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all want to thing that our opinions are the correct ones. I don't know anyone that likes being disagreed with. There are levels to it, though. The person who disagrees and backs up their opinion with logic and intelligence without a condescending attitude is much more welcome than the person who disagrees, tells you how stupid you are, and then proceeds to call you names.
2006-07-28 01:51:58 · answer #8 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like when people disagree with me. I enjoy a good argument every now and then. A few have lasted a couple hours!
2006-07-28 02:00:10 · answer #9 · answered by peach_campbell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it honestly depends on if i am right or not. if i know i am right about something.. then no.. i dont like disagreement and i make it very clear the conversation is over. if theres room for doubt on my part, i will "discuss" the opinions. but best of all.. i like to compromise. ... he compromises that i am always right.. giggle
2006-07-28 02:43:15 · answer #10 · answered by KATY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋