what do I tell my children when they say-WHY DID YOU GIVE BIRTH TO ME?

Question

They usually ask this when they are depressed and angry. It is such a stupid question on their part and I would like to have a clever come back. I am so tired of them saying it. I believe that once a gift is given you no longer have ownership over that gift. Life is a gift.

Answer 1

dont worry about it just know you here

Answer 2

It's not really a stupid question, it's quite legitimate. Why did you bring a person into the world without them asking for it? They never gave consent to be here. Just because you believe life is a gift doesn't mean everyone shares your views. If you want a comeback, just tell them you needed cheap labor (even though kids aren't cheap).

Answer 3

As far as a "clever come-back", you could say this: "Well, I gave birth to you because I wanted you for my very own, and I loved you from the moment I found I was pregnant."

But, since they only ask that question when they're depressed and angry, find out why they're depressed and angry. Something must be going on for them to ask that question so frequently.

Answer 4

my kids have NEVER said that to me... and they are 16-14-10-7
these kinds of statements sound like a cry for help... and you say they get depressed and angry... that concerns me too. have you thought about getting the kids some therapy? they are making a pretty big statement to you... do you want them to mimic that behavior as adults with their spouses and children? i don't know how old your children are but i CAN tell you the actions of children multiples GREATLY as they get older... they need to learn respect, and boundries, how to control anger AND they need to learn that they can't ALWAYS speak their minds (because they need to think before they speak).

please, look into a psychologist. if nothing else they will give you an expert opinion on how to handle this situation in the healthiest way possible!

BEST OF LUCK

Answer 5

Part of me wants to say ignore them when they act like that because they are just upset they are not getting their way. The other part of me says they are saying it to get your attention. I wonder if you grab them and pull them close and hold them tight, tell them that you had them becuase you love them and want to be the best mother to them. I wonder if they would keep doing it. I don't think that having something "smart" to say back is the right thing to do. your the mature adult and they are the child. Show them what's mature.

Answer 6

I'd tell them they'd better start talking to me with some respect, or I'll make them start paying rent and utilities. Remember- they don't have to be making money for you to 'make them pay' if you catch my drift. Uh-oh, no cell phone, too bad! Uh-oh, no new school clothes, too bad! Uh-oh, no clean laundry, too bad! Think outside the box, Mom! You can come up with something great!

Answer 7

Tell them that you had them because you wanted to have them to love for the rest of your life.

Answer 8

I gave birth to u is beacuse i love you, i need you, be good my son.. ( sometimes be soft to your son doesn't disgrace yourself.)( and there was show "I not stupid 2") try to watch and u can really understand what children are thinking and how to be a good parents. its really a very touching movie

Answer 9

Just say .. Oh I'm sorry .......I dropped a tic tac down my pants , when I went to find it I pulled u out instead ... Would u rather go back in ?

Answer 10

I would think the only reason a child would say something like that is because they don't feel as if they are appreciated and truly loved. I can't imagine my kids saying that to me, they never have. I would talk to them more and make them feel more appreciated. Get closer to them.

Answer 11

tell them to read Johnathan Swift's "A Modest Proposal" and to quit whining.