I wanted us to separate because i cant take it anymore what he is doing to me and my kids. its been 3yrs that he is having an affair with the other woman. the time i leaned about the affair he told me that they separated already and he want us to start again but the truth is their relatioship still there. I dont know what to do now i really want to have freedom too and move on in my own.
2006-07-27 18:21:28 · 15 answers · asked by lynekris 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Infidelity is grounds for divorce in most States. When he gets served the papers, he will know.
Conversely, some of the card stores have greeting cards for just such an occasion. Maybe check them out.
Of course, nothing beats the drama of him coming home to an empty house. It all depends on just how angry you are.
Peace!
2006-07-27 18:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-03 04:15:53 · answer #2 · answered by treiber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm the fact is that you are trying to avoid a dialogue with ur husband regarding this, for some reason. Maybe u are afraid of being out in the open urself. Sometimes situations must be faced.
U should be able to make a concrete decision as to how u wud go about facing the world urself, alongwith ur kids. No point in having the kids with him.
And in case u want to put forth ur thoughts to him without letting him talk out to u again (as he did before), u have to write down a kind of a letter explaining what u intend to do. Present the letter to him and ask him to read through it and then talk him into u moving on.
This is just my personal suggestion.
2006-07-27 18:53:17 · answer #3 · answered by AquaAqua 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first, dont tell him that you hate him, just tell him that you want to go on with your life and he can have the other woman that he is seeing and make his a-s-s pay child support on your kids. tell him that you dont want to live the life that you are living now and tell him that he just lost the best thing that has ever happened to him and then pack your bags and your kids bags while is out with her or while he is at work, but dont leave a note as to where you will be or even a phone number either.
then go somewhere that he wont find you and your kids and then go to dhs and file for child support on your kids and make his a-s-s pay for what he has done to you for the last 3 years and then some.
get out while you still can. soon.
2006-07-27 18:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until he is out someday...pack all your things and arrange ahead of time for somewhere else for you and the children to go..say like your mother's house...make sure the children are already away before he comes home...then sit him down and tell him...if he might become angry or violent, try to have a friend or relative around, even in another room...you deserve so much better...good luck...
2006-07-27 18:30:15 · answer #5 · answered by MissDaharki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not need him. Leave him and get your self esteem back to the top.
The only regret I had when I left my ex-hubby of 13 years was that I should have done it sooner.
Now after 7 years of living a life away from a philandering hiusband, my children and I are very happily living with my present hubby who loves all of us unconditionally.
2006-07-27 18:29:10 · answer #6 · answered by mylenekeane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don tell him anything. Plan everything in advance. Wait until he is out with his mistress or something. Write him a letter explaining why you are leaving him ,Pack your stuff, take your kids and dont look back. Then send him the divorce papers in the mail.
2006-07-27 18:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by Carpe Diem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got kids don't stay there thinking thing going to change if he cheating on you you need to get your kids and move on don't take your kids Thur this because you think you can make things better and you never can if a another women is involved with him.Good luck
2006-07-27 18:28:18 · answer #8 · answered by Happy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Betrayal and lying from your husband is reason enough to seek a better life. It won't be easy. If you tell him that you are leaving because you can no longer deal with his lies and betrayal, he should get the message and you should stick to your guns. You don't hate it as much as you don't love him any more.
2006-07-27 18:34:09 · answer #9 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you just don't feel that you two were meant to be together... you feel stronly that you're not right for each other... you want to live a different life & it's time for you to go in a different direction.
2006-07-27 18:30:03 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋