I'm having an affair with a married man, is that wrong?

Question

I am having an affair with a married man, and now his wife is calling me an harassing me. She really has nothing to do with her time, because all she does is be a stay at home mom. He says that he does not love her because all she does is spend his money. He has taken me out to fancy dinners, shopping, but that is not really what I care about, it's just what his soon ex wife cares about. Now he has left her for me, and she is calling and harassing me and harassing him for alimony I don't know why she dosn't just get a job and quit harassing him him and, how do I tell her to leave me alone?

Answer 1

Girl, get yourself a man who respects you, and wants to be with only you.

Answer 2

A stay at home mom does have better things to do, but she is hurt, humiliated, and pissed off! Why are you worried about his obligations by law to pay alimony? It is HIS money, right? I don't want to be judgmental, but requesting alimony does not make a person lazy. How old are the children? You didn't really mention the child(ren).Did it cross your mind that the child(ren) may be too young for her to work full-time or let alone afford daycare? How do they feel about all of this? You need to remember that you and your new guys decision to be together affects more than just the two of you. Sooner or later she will stop bothering the two of you, until then you should be a little more tolerable. I was the other woman once (not to a married man) and also cheated on by the same man. It is a given that a cheater will lie in an attempt to secure a relationship. I do not believe that a cheater will always be a cheater because people do learn from their mistakes. Why take the chance? To answer your question, yes you are wrong to have allowed the affair to happen and continue, now deal with the crap!

Answer 3

What u did was wrong. I am not saying u are a horrible person but what if some woman did the same thing u did? Now from what I have observed is that if a person cheats to be with someone, then they will do it again... Why would u want to be with a man who would cheat on his own wife? Even though she may not have a job, she is taking care of the kids and let me tell u that, that is a full time and a half job

Answer 4

First off, you shouldn't have been seeing a married man.

Second, stay at home moms do have a hectic life. My mother was a stay at home mom and she accomplished more in one day than my dad did.

Third, you need to ignore her and be the bigger person. Can't you understand why she is hurting? In her eyes, you stole the man she loves away from her. She is heartbroken and sees you as the reason, whether you agree with her or not, you have to understand where she is coming from. There is really nothing that you can do to make her stop other than having her ex talk to her about it. Don't make contact with her, it won't help the situation.

Answer 5

DUH! She has every right to harrass, you seem to not have anything better to do than to find a married man..
How about you grow up and quit getting used goods and find your own man..it really says alot about you....which from your question you don't seem to be much of a woman to stoop that low. And as far as the alimony, look out honey, when he is forced to pay money, your shopping and fancy dinners are finished.
You may keep the as*****. But guess what the ex wife still gets the money, THAT YOU WON'T HAVE... IS HE WORTH IT...
NOT!!!!

Answer 6

Shame on you, and I mean in a BIG way. How dare you step on the heart of a sister.

And they have children together? What are you, exactly? Do you think he won't do the same to you when "all you do is be a stay at home mom"?

Step back and ask yourself why you want a man who will be unfaithful? Have you no pride, no dignity?

The harassing part....change your number and get it unlisted. You have no business talking to the wife at all.

Answer 7

Yes it is wrong. What in the 'h' is wrong with you? AND him? Have you ever been cheated on? Have you ever been married AND cheated on? Have you ever had children? And been a mom? there is a difference. Being a stay at home mom is NOT easy- how dare you. Mad props to her for fighting this- yes, she should quit calling you- YOU are not worth it.
Happily married mother of 2 WITH a career.

Answer 8

Breaking other woman heart is what you are doing now. Don't blame her because when she married her husband she thought that he will love her forever. We always do feel that way when we in love with our man. After marriage, we hope to grow old together. But with a sudden appearance of you in his husband life, she is heartbroken. You are so naive to believe that he said his wife spend his money. Man like him will always said bad thing about their wife to get your love. Do you think he will love you forever??? Only time will tell. But for what I had experienced, I find that unfaithfull husband is always tell lies. He cannot be trusted. Moreover, what both of you doing now is really wrong. But I know, you will not agreed with me because now you are really deeply in love with this man... but remember "Love is not forever".

Answer 9

Coming from a women who has been cheated on, I think I've scraped better crap off the bottom of my shoe! You have alot of nerve little girl whinning about the drama you created. Every action in life has a consequence, this is one of them. If you can't handle it, then maybe you ought to wait until he's divorced! Oh, and by the way....Karma is wonderful thing.

Answer 10

First of all, you should have not dated with him in the first place. God forbids relationships (sex, on the outside and in your imagination) so just because of that you should stop having affairs with him and repent before God almighty who created you and him, and now u've sinned and ruined ur communication with Him. But remember, He as merciful and gracious as He is, died for that, (died for YOU) he paid a costly price, something that he was not suppose to do, but he did just to show u love.
But u on the other hand, keep on sinning and rejecting Him.
I'd be scared to be in ur shoes!
remember, u've sinned, but HE PAID the price, the one u should have, and now all u have to do is, ask and not do what u did before!
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God bless!!!

ps; resolve to think where u'd go when u die? cause that might be today, where will u spend ur eternity???? u have still a chance and please i beg u, do not miss it! for he is gracious now, but there is a deadline!!!

Answer 11

Come on, you can't tell me you didnt expect this. Haven't you heard the phrase "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned"? Listen you need to be adult about this. He has a sense of responsiblity to his children. Best thing for you to do is allow her BF to handle matters. Getting caught in the middle would just make matters worse for you and him. Just be supportive for him offline, and when she calls be diplomatic and do not go head to head with her. Remember the adult in you, the cool calm collected individual.