earlyer today i got alot of information about a relationship that i have been in for the past two months. well pretty much to sum up the whole story and not drag it out i am scared to be alone. he claims to be a man but acts like a boy and lets his pride and stubborness get in the way of letting his real feelings out.
well just about a hour ago i broke up with my boyfriend and its hard for me i am hurting inside so much but i know i cant let my hurt over power how i really feel. the majority of the time we argue and fight and i know thats not how a relationship is suppose to be he refuses to talk about it and everyone knows thats the best way to solve the problems. well im still at his moms house because i have to wait for her to get home for gas money so i can leave and he is sulking. he hasnt tried to say sorry or i want you to stay with me nothing. all he said was "i wasnt the one who gave up on us". now i dont know if im doing the right thing? please give me some advice
2006-07-27 18:06:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sucks breaking up with someone you love.
But sometimes its just gotta be done. Although it doesn't feel like it there are other people out there and when you least expect it someone greater will come into your life.
Yes, you just broke up with your boyfriend and you will probably be alone for the next few months, but this is only natural. You need this time to get your life back together and go back and find the things that YOU like and that make you YOU! Just let things be and get back in touch with yourself.
I'm not saying its easy, you will probably be crying for at least the next 4 months, but with time everything will come easier.
I wish you luck and I beg you to PLEASE don't even reconsider getting back with him out of desperation. Busy yourself with a new job or some volunteer work, but DON'T call him up again!! Otherwise you are only asking for trouble and to make things much harder on you in the long run.
2006-07-27 18:13:59 · answer #1 · answered by cutie pie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem kind of young, and hunnie, you dont need this stress. You will find other guys out there...he is probably just trying to make you feel guilty about the decision you made, cause he probably wants you back! Enjoy the single life, cause guys will crawl all over you soon enough!! If you want let him know that you need someone that will be open and honest with you, cause you are right sugar, communication is what all successful relationships need, wether its a a friendship or something more. Listen to your gut and your heart. You clearly know what you want girl, so go for it! Let him sulk about what he lost, and maybe he will grow up...
2006-07-27 18:14:00 · answer #2 · answered by Hannah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well even if u were in a long relationship with him or not i think u shouldve gave him some time unless u think u r doing the right thing. i read a book that said if u feel like ur not in a godly relationship then maybe he is not the one or breaking up is going to be hard
2006-07-27 18:16:15 · answer #3 · answered by alycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep trying to talk to him and eventually he will break down and talk to you, but first just let him cool off and chill out a little bit before you approach him and try to talk to him. that is the only thing that you can do right now. just leave him alone and let him cool off and chill out a while, otherwise you will just cause another fight and possible bodily harm and you dont want that to happen trust me on that one girl. i have been there and done that. just wait and be patient. give it a few and then see what happens from there. got faith in you girl. just let god work his magic. see what happens.
2006-07-27 18:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to work things out u both have too sit down and talk things out and try to figure out what is the problem. it's time he grows up and be a man if he wants a relationship to last. if he ain't willing to talk about it just leave, another thing about him sulking and saying he wasn't the one who gave up- he wants you to take the blame and it be all your fault things went wrong and not his fault. but no one can tell you what to do it is your decision we can just lend you some advice.
2006-07-27 18:16:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is painful, you need to let it go...or at least take a step back and get your priorities straight. Ask yourself if this is what you want. Strive for happiness, not heartbreak!
2006-07-27 18:14:32 · answer #6 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answers for our questions they say are simple. doing them however is another story. it's not your fault--you just got tired of it and given the situation of the world at this moment...our personal difficulties are so trivial. That's the simple answer, but it's up to you: listen to your heart or your head? more of the same does not make it any better
2006-07-27 18:13:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of the husband could have stayed with the spouse. Rescheduling the ear tubes could have been my first suggestion. optimistically the ex-spouse isn't a b*tch and could have understood. Heaven forbid something undesirable handed off to the spouse or toddler for the period of delivery, he could never be waiting to stop blaming himself for no longer being there.
2016-11-03 04:15:27 · answer #8 · answered by treiber 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any man who tries to defend his side alone and refuses to look at the partners point of view should be left alone to figure it out all by himself.
2006-07-27 18:49:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't forget about YOUR NEEDS.
You need a mature man... not a sulky, self-pitying little boy.
You need compassion from your mate, just as much as he needs compassion from you.
Sounds like he's spoiled... & that's not going to help you to receive what you need.
2006-07-27 18:16:21 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋