Does any one know how to get an 11 year old to do things without talking back????

Answer 1

be FIRM

Answer 2

1}Have a reward system or allowance put in place?If theres a weekly allowance then you can deduct a certain ammount for every time the child talks back or other negative behaviour.Create a daily pts chart for good behaviour and set rewards for so many pts (Ice cream shop, movie, sleepover, pick dinner or special school lunch, etc.) to be added and cashed in on at weekly basis.List each behaviour u wish to encourage (like lissening w/o talkin back 5 pts, doing homework 5pts etc, do a chore 10 pts etc.and you list a thing or 2 they do w/o hassle) List the rules positively left side of note paper sideways and days of the week across the top, stick it the fridge where they can see it daily maybe give them a star for each good deed to put on it, set the price and make them earn their privelages. Make a monthly reward too. Good luck.
2}Consequence of inapproprioate behaviour(breaking a rule):
timeout,no playstation for day, no tv, no play with friends, etc.

Answer 3

Involve them in the decision makeing about what they are going to do, and what is going to happen if they dont have the child pick the punishmen right it out like a contract.that is how i get my 10 year old to do stuff, I have done that with all three of my girls ages 6, 8 And 10 good luck and if all else fails duct tape

Answer 4

hey heres the thing 11 yearolds go trough weird changes and are starting to get to be a teen if it something like going out with a boy/girl be more understanding but to easy going if its some like cleaning they have to keep up with chores and school and they under prusser but make sure they anyway they can have time with there friends at aother times don't yell cause thne they tend to do that thing more often but be clam and talk at the dinner table while wachting tv ask them how they feel and they to understand and explain to them how you feel then work out a shudle and if there grounded they get up set but don't give in make sure they know punishmentand how long it is ingrone there wining but dont go to hard or cancle a plan they had for a long time..... hope i helped

Answer 5

When you find out let me know! LOL But, one piece of advice that I have gotten is... grow with your child not away from them. It's hard, how do you break their "bad" will and not their spirit. You know what is acceptable to you. When they act out, try staying calm and tell them that their behavior isn't acceptable to you. Ask him to rephrase what he just said and if he doesn't, he suffers the consiquences...whatever that is in your home! In our house we take away the most important thing to our son (13yrs). We also try to not ground him for more than a week, though it depends on what he did. Good behavior is rewarded! But remember as you want him to respect you, you need to respect him. He is going to be testing the waters. He's getting ready to change into a young adult. Include him in more and try to really listen to what he trying to tell you either verbally or physically. If you yell all the time, he is going to tune out and you don't want that to happen. Though, I think a smack on the butt is sometimes necessary. Good luck to you and to all of us with kids!

Answer 6

Don't give them everything they want. If they talk back take away their DVD player, TV, game cube (X-box), phone, etc, until they earn it back with good behavior. Parents think that their children need to have all the latest gadgets and toys, but they can survive without it.

Answer 7

You need to hit him/her (figuratively) where it hurts them the most. Find their favorite thing whether it be an object or maybe something they like to do and take it from them until they show you some respect. Make sure that you let them know why you do things like that or else they'll become even more rebellious

Answer 8

drug them. Form a cult. ummm.....write a hit song with the lyrics reflecting the deed to be done. Make a teen reality show that promotes the task....oh yeah. Give up and cry like a baby.

Answer 9

Nope, because I have an almost 13 yr. old who does the same thing. I do notice if you bribe them with something that does tend to work sometimes. Much luck!!

Answer 10

y mom did a few things with me.It annoyed me half to death but I think it worked.
#-She didnt try to talk back,argue,or yell at me.Smile was always present and a chearful voice too,no matter what she was saying.Annoyed the living crap out of me that I wasnt beating her down.
#2-She would also cut me short.
"Whatev-"
"bah!"
"Mo-
""shut up sweetie"
"But I hat-"
""Obey *singsong* nooooowww"
"AUGH MOM why do you-"
"Just shut up and do what I told you to."
"But I -"
"Yeeah..but I m am going to ground you if you dont do what I said now with out question"
#3-If I did talk back she would make me come back to her,and start the entire job over with out me taking back.Eventually after about an hour I would do what she wanted silently.Annoyed the living crap out of me.
#4-She would tell my father.

Answer 11

Impossible.