Would you stay with a man?.....?

Question

That makes you feel on top of the world one day and treats you like a piece of sh*t that got stuck on the botom of his shoe the next?

Answer 1

It's a really tough call and I feel for you. It seems that the nice times really do make up for the bad, however there comes a time when you may find yourself wilting from the extreme high and lows and each day is determined by his mood and approach. Slowly it will eat at away at your degree of self confidence, create a sense of uncertainty and even though u love him, u begin to question yourself. U may even find that u begin to exhibit the same behaviour yourself simply because u don't know how else to play his "game" & there is a desperate need to keep the peace. It is really hard when you care for them but at the end of the day, u may find your own personality altering cause u can't work it out. If something this difficult is happening in your life, u may seriously need to consider: do I want to feel like this in 10 years. I'm just healing after a difficult relationship like this for five years. Love him to bits but it wasn't healthy. Good luck and I hope your heart and your head meet and you feel peaceful with whatever outcome you choose

Answer 2

My dear YES & NO why I've been there it is a hard question to answer it will depend on how long you have both been together...Do you both have children...Is he the one in your heart and soul...have you spoken to him about it...does he care...what is it that he does that makes you feel on top of the world yet makes you feel like **** the next...never lose your dignity or yourself...This is a situation where you; yourself, have to truly ask yourself is this the man that I want to spend THE REST OF MY LIFE WITH or COULD YOU DO BETTER. I truly believe that all you need to do is try to sit down & have a talk about this with him the first intuition that you get WILL BE YOUR ANSWER THAT YOU HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR!

Answer 3

You know I have just been through 10 years of the same thing can you imagine living like that for 6 months how would u feel then now picture your life with this person for a year how do you feel now what would be going through your mind now try picturing it for 10 years life with him you now have wasted 10 years of your life you have been beaten down mentally and have a very low self esteem. Hun is that what you want? Don't make the same mistake I did life is to short to deal with that BS! Good luck to you.

Answer 4

you should not. considering discussions in the behavioral sciences, you are at an intermittent schedule of reinforcement wherein your man may mistreat you, say, 10 days in a row then treat you like a queen on the 11th day. what this means is that your tolerance for his crap has gone up since you know that he will make you feel great, maybe tomorrow. it's like the pattern for spousal abuse be it emotional or physical. abused partners "don't understand" why they cannot leave their other halves"--it's because you are anticipating that "good moment" to happen, maybe, so you wait longer.

Answer 5

ahh I can totally relate to you and it sux .. I been doing a lil soul searching myself ..ive been with my husband for almost 11 years but just married 5 and I go through the same thing as you ..its annoying and I was very close to leaving him but I came to realize noone is perfect everyone has there day or days of mood swings .. I tried to look at all the good and the bad and god there is alot of bad but through it all I came to realize i committed myself to this man in marriage and I dontt ake my vows lightly call me old fashioned but i decided to stick around and try to make it work ..If you really love him be real with him and let him know how your feeling inside ..you know alot of ppl walk out cuz they think the grass is greener on the other side but i dont think it is ..every relation has problams some worse then others but if you made a committment to him for better or worse till death do us part thin id say try and live up to it unless he cheats then id leave ..sometimes we take for granted what we got and dont realize what we had till its gone ..ask yourself what you really want before you leave hun ..in all reality you gotta do what makes you happy ..it takes alot of work everyday and patiance like you wouldnt beleive..but im trying becuz i feel its the right thing to do now .. i go through it daily too your not alone and im assuming he feels the same way sometimes .. I think we try so hard to make it in life we forget about what means the most to us ...try to put some you and him time aside .. best wishes if you wanna contact me feel free maybe talking to someone going through the same things will help us cope a lil better lol

Answer 6

Depends on if you like roller coaster rides, because that is exactly what it is like. I did it for 30 years. Never got any better, destroyed my self esteem. If you think he will go to counseling to help the situation, then great, but if he doesn't see himself as doing anything wrong, then this is where the BIG problem is. Been through it, so I know. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

No. your man should treat you like a princess 24 hours a day 7 days a week.

Answer 8

Hell no. Because if his mood swings are that bad, who knows what he is capable of doing. That kind of relationship would seriously turn to the worst. I mean thats kind of like Ike and Tina, he used to beat her up really bad one day. Then buy her gifts and stuff the next. That is no way for anyone to live. I say get out while you can.

Answer 9

People treat you how you allow yourself to be treated. Unless he's bi-polar and you are madly in love and have been with him forever, I don't see the point in allowing this to continue. Have you tried asking him why he does this? Sometimes that helps, some men, don't even know they do it. Bring it to his attention. If he changes his ways, he's worth keeping. If it continues, leave him. The longer you debate it, the harder it's going to be. And the longer you stay and accept this behavior, the longer it's going to continue. Life's short, men are not in short supply, you deserve better.

Answer 10

Yeah, sure, if I liked getting my self-esteem stomped on every other day! If you like being treated like something on the bottom of his shoe, then go for it; if you don't, then stand up for yourself and tell him to treat you better. If he doesn't, then prepare yourself for a disasterous relationship.

When you're ready to be treated with respect, you'll know what to do. Good luck.