How can you catch your spouse if they are cheating?

Question

I'm wondering if anyone has any fool-proof methods and what has worked for them. The gut feeling is one thing but proving it can be quite another. Most of us need to KNOW, not just suspect, before we can claim infidelity. Private investigator is too expensive, any other suggestions/comments would be appreciated!

Answer 1

Well, if you can't trust him.... I wouldn't waste my time trying to figure it out. I'd leave. What do you have if you can't trust each other. But if you must know...

I'd hate to say it. But follow the guy. But first. FIRST. Try asking him. If he can't look you in the eyes and say it, then follow him. Just be ready for anything. And I mean ANYTHING. Remember, if you follow him, and he's been faithful, there are going to be some serious complications (much worse than you trust issues). Especially if he catches you spying on him. I'm sure you know what you're going to do if you catch him. But be ready. I don't like the idea. I hate to say it. I've been where you are, and it's gotta be eating you up thinking about it. But, be ready to lose him if you're wrong.

Answer 2

Well catching a cheater is always interesting. My method worked for me, but I make no guarantees. I found a friend that my ex didn't know and had her follow him around. When that didn't satisfy my curiosity (he did stuff but still couldn't prove anything), I found someone that was just his type, another friend, and she met up with him. She didn't even have to start the conversation and before the night was over he was giving up his cell number and home number and saying if I answered I was his sister.
However, if this is a marriage (which I'm assuming) you probably will want to get some help. Especially if you're planning on leaving him.
I will leave you with this, if you're having doubts about fidelity, then you're probably right. He's probably given you all the clues you need. A cell phone he won't let you touch, calls in the middle of the day that he won't answer in front of you, etc. Just be sure you really want to know, because you will find out.

Answer 3

How good is the relationship to begin with if you have to speculate cheating? There is no fool proof way of catching anyone who doesn't want to be caught. Instead of wondering how to catch the spouse, ask yourself if you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone you can't trust. Because that is where this is going. It's a lose-lose situation. You'll drive yourself nuts if you don't find out, you'll be devistated if your right and if you're wrong, you've damaged the relationship with your speculation and lack of trust. Something that is not easily repaired.

Answer 4

Enlist a friend whom he's never met to sit around and follow him from time to time. Arm the friend with pictures of him from several angles, sitting, standing, from the front, from behind, bending over (so they can familiarize themselves with his gestures) Also, a digital camera with a zoom, (a video camera is good if you have one) and some listening equipment (you can buy these online). If your man's never seen the friend or the friend's car, he shouldn't notice his new entourage. You can also get a GPS tracking system for your home computer. Stick a GPS tracker somewhere in his vehicle. When he runs out at night because he has to "go back to the office." You can go online and see if his car is really headed towards the office.

Answer 5

well you already have a gut feeling , and they are doing strange things , like taking more pride in there appearance , going out more , sneaking about , stuttering excuses , look more exhausted so check

1)Email

2)check their cell phone bills -shows who they are calling , and if roaming

3)check share check and credit card statements -
shows where they are buying things and maybe where and you can say o hun what did you buy at so and so and where is that item ? or what were you doing in whatever town .

--Last resort - you know your so sure you think -

4) well you could ask a trusted friend or relative to play PI for you , you make like your staying home , and lets say he always go out Thursdays .. your friend could be waiting a couple houses down and try to follow them . and the friend could call you at the location so you can catch him/her red handed .
and pray to God you were just being over reacting .

Answer 6

If he has a cell phone check the numbers and if it's the same number check the times these calls are being made or received. Then right the number down and call it yourself and see who answers. If you want to get brave and it's a female ask who she is. If he's cheating he'll get caught one way or another. Trust me he'll get caught! If it's meant for you to find out you will. Maybe you can ask your question with more details and I can help you from there. I busted my ex husband cheating and he thought he would never get caught. So see they always do. Good Luck!

Answer 7

My husband is a PI. What he usually does it basic spying. Is your spouse going out alot more than usual? If so follow him/or her. Borrow a friends car. Ck your credit card statements for any unusual charges. Casually ck his/her cell phone for strange #'s. If you can't follow him/her have a close trust worthy friend or family member (on your side) do it. There are a # of things you can do. Listen to him/her when they talk about why they're late or going out. Listen when they retell it ck the details against what they said the first time. Good Luck

Answer 8

they have those new semen detector kits, you could try one of those. Supposedly you can spray it on their undies, or the sheets/or whereever and any semen that has had contact will show up. Is it a male or female? If male just ask they are usually terrible liars. They always forget to clear cell phone and email. Not to mention computer history. Ask their buddies just see their reaction. Buddies give it away every time. My 1st husband went out of town once, his buddy actually came over, tried to sleep with me, and stated...I don't understand why not, you know hes cheating too. Good luck

Answer 9

Check his wallet and pockets while you do the laundry for phone numbers or anything, look for marks on him like hickies and other visable signs of physical activity. Get an answering machine and caller ID, see if anything weird pops up. Check his car for anything such as phone numbers, clothing, protection, anything thats not his or yours. If you even have to, get someone to hit on him..like a decoy. Also, you can buy a small tape recorder or camera and leave them hidden in your house, his car, his coat pocket, where ever you think its at. If all else fails..ask him.

Answer 10

Look up "cheaters" on the web. They will give you proof positive and nail him. There is an expense but isn't it worth it to get rid of the daily agony.
If you have a good friend who is willing to get involved and spare the time, maybe they can tail him. Personally I wouldn't put that on my friend though.