Am I Falling out of Love?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now. We been through a lot. He to Iraq and we made it through that. When he was there, I felt so in love with him but when he came back things were different. He was still my best friend and he's the only person I could ever truly trust in this whole world. We share everything together and have a strong solid friendship in our relationship. I'm 22 and he's 26 and I believe we're both mature individuals that have experienced a lot of tough times in our lives. Being with each other has really allowed ourselves to be just who we are with each other. Long story short. At one point the relationship felt soo perfect and I was on a high. Yes, I know I was in love. But now, we're living together and have been for over a year and at times it just feels like we're two people that share our lives together and love each other more than anything in life but there's no more "spark".

Does that mean we're not in love anymore????

Answer 1

yeah, that happens... when people actually start living together the "dream" vanishes into monotony.

i always think that people can easily fall out of love, i'm not sure eternal love exists AT ALL when you are with a person face to face sharing a house and the everyday petty worries of life.

Answer 2

NO.....that "spark" that you feel at first with someone fades over time. That initial "high" goes away! It does not mean you do not love them; it just means you are comfortable with them. Since you now live together, it seems like the same routine every day. Go to dinner together.....date!!! Bring the spark back that you first felt. The fact that you can be yourselves with eachother makes everything the two of you do so much more enjoyable. You are still in love....and so is he! Just imagine for a minute how you two would be if you were no longer together. That, without a doubt, will answer your question!!!!

Answer 3

this is one of the main reason why couples go and try to have relationships with other people... boredom and monotony.
if you think, things are getting to be so perfect and routinary, then it is time to do something different. it may be crazy or awkward but if it would give the "spark" that you need to spice-up your married life... then go ahead!!!
you said, He is still your best friend and he's the only person you could ever truly trust in this whole world. You share everything together and have a strong solid friendship in your relationship". |man, that is something a lot of people have been praying to have in a marriage... a trustful partner and friend. don't throw it way my dear. you have a gem in your hands... don't waste it. you might be bored of having this gem in your possession. but believe me, by the time you decide to dispose of it... many will fall in line to catch what you have just trashed.

Answer 4

no, I think it's a normal cycle of your relationship. My husband and I have been together for 9 years now, and there are times when I love him so much it hurts, and others where it just sorta seems like I am sharing a house with a roomate. It's one of those feelings that we need to work at. The problem with many relationships is people just give up when they lose that initial "spark". If you work through that, eventually your love will be even deeper than you could have imagined. Sounds corny I know, but trust me. Been there. Don't give up yet.

Answer 5

Take it from someone who know's the "spark" isn't always there. It does however come back. Life just gets in the way. I don't know if you and he were living together before but you are now. Now there's the things that life just hands us / bill, family, you name it. Before he was someone you talked to about those things now he's apart of those things. It takes time to adjust. Don't give up, if you truely love each other and it sounds like you do you'll work thru it. Talk to him let him know how you are feeling. You must remember you two have had a lot of high's so to speak and now it's "normal" no upheavel just life. Good luck.

Answer 6

No. . . passion only lasts so long in a relationship. Biologically that is the way we are programmed. Passionate love often gives way to a more subdued but perhaps deeper kind of love where you feel like the best of friends. . . because you've been through thick and thin together and you are loyal to each other.

Answer 7

No that just means you two are not lusting anymore. You see things are just the way they are to be....There isn't anything wrong this is normal.....You love him, your past the lust stage....There will be days you will feel like you no longer want to be with him and on the other hand there will be days were you know you can't be without him....The Spark!!!! It is there but you have to light it.....talk, gaze, and hold each other...you'll get the fire burning......Honey never look else wear it is right in front of you....Good men are hard to find......If he is your best friend.........You love him.......Stay put.......You two have what it takes.............Good luck

Answer 8

Before jumping to the idea that you might be 'falling out of love' why not try getting the spark back. Think of when you were so in love with him, what where you guys doing differently?

Answer 9

By all means honey, the answer to your question is no. It just means that the "honey moon" phase is over. Bring it back. Go out of your way to laugh at his jokes, look at him with eyes of lust like you use to, flirt with him. It's not the love that has gone, it's the passion. The good news is that it's something that you can bring back into the relationship.

Answer 10

No it just means you are tired of the routine. Do different things as a couple just like when you were dating.