Her parents don't like the father of the baby and disowned her and won't recognize her as their daughter. She is quite upset about this. What can I do to help her out? or what can she do??
2006-07-27 17:38:14 · 5 answers · asked by lindseeeeyyyy 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You know, parents are a funny lot. My parents told me to get an abortion when I told them I was pregnant with their grandchild. I told them no. By the way, I was also 29 years old. Go figure. My son will soon be 21 and he was raised around his grandparents. Now, back to your friend, does the father of the baby plan to support her during the next 9 months? Does he plan to go to Lamaze classes with her? If the two of them show a united front now, it will show her parents they are strong and nothing will bring them down from having this baby.
Of course, now I'm curious. Just how old is your friend? If she got pregnant while still in school, not really grown up yet....yeah, she made a big mistake.
And, finally, if she is young (school age), does she plan on keeping the baby at this point in time or giving him/her up? Lots of questions, I know, but she will need to weigh all the odds.
2006-07-27 17:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by kath68142 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well just be her friend that is about all you can do. Hopefully the baby's father will prove to be a great dad and a great birth partner and then her parents will change thier mind. It would be so sad that they would miss out on what could be the best thing in thier lives. Stand by her and keep being a good friend.
2006-07-28 01:07:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there to offer her support. Suggest she check with an agency to assist her so she gets correct pre-natal care. Her parents may realize that disowning her wasn't the correct step to take but then they may not. Emotions overtake all of us at times. Pray that her family reunites. Have her contact a church or check the web for a state agency that will help her.
Good luck to your friend.
2006-07-28 00:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by helpme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could suggest her finding a counselor to help her and if she doesnt want that kind of help have her contact someone she feels she can trust enough to help her make correct decisions on what she would like to do,for herself and the new life she has created!is her boyfriend ready to be a father and do the right thing?
and is she old enough to sacrifice herself and her teen years to become a full time mommy?she has a hard road ahead and alot of tough choices to make can she willingly make the correct choices for her new baby and the babys interest?
does she even want to keep the child?or has she considered adopption as a alternative?
2006-07-28 00:57:21 · answer #4 · answered by wendy t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she can go to the local "family Independence agency" (fancy new term for welfare office...) and ask what help is available to her. they will find her a place to go, medical help, and general assistance. my tax dollars fund this sort of parenting all of the time, she won't be the first and unfortunately not the last either!
2006-07-28 00:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by JayneDoe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋