My husband choose his career rather than stay home and work close to our place. He likes what he's doing now. Work but travel all the time.He don't mind about our relation as long we can pay the bills and all the family needs. I always feel lonely. It's not all abouit money all the time.
2006-07-27 17:16:33 · 9 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To Lothario2, I'm not a wife like what u said. I never cheat my husband and stop calling people w****. Thnx
2006-07-27 17:24:04 · update #1
We really love each other, when we get chance together, we had no problem of relation and less argue, compare when he travel. He use to travel before but he promise to look for other job which make him stay home but he has no choice unless I think he really put effort to look for it.
2006-07-27 17:26:16 · update #2
I agree that money isn't the answer to everything,but unfortunately it plays a very important part in living and there could never be enough.However,i understand that you get lonely,and you just need to keep pursuing your Husband about relocating to be home,or finding another field of work.Keep in mind,he feels that he is doing the greatest thing by being away to supply the needs for his family,some towns don't even have job openings near home,so for the present time try to be patient with all this,it sounds like you have a strong foundation in your relationship,you mentioned that your husband doesn't mind about the relationship,by that,it tells me that he knows he can trust you completely and that is why he is able to travel with ease.I don't know what your husband does for a living,and it doesn't matter,but just maybe every once in a while you might be able to tag along to rekindle and make the most of your time.I wish you both the best and Good Luck to you,it sounds like he really loves you and you do him,hang in there.You are truly blessed with a wonderful family,if you get to lonely,try to hang out with friends and family sometimes and try to talk to your husband as much as you can during a day."Good things come to those that are patient"!
2006-07-27 17:42:43 · answer #1 · answered by twjp1962 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Had made a survey on this question. When a person is young, he/she prefers to travel far for work. He gets to see the world around. Earns more than home base. Gets some hard knocks along the way. After some time, he/she will gets tired of it and will appreciate home is still better. Best part is when you are away, you miss home. That is why times relationship is stronger when trust exist. If you are lonely, find something to do. Take up courses, learn new things to surprise him/her when back. As you said, he likes what he's s doing now. Good to work happy and still bring in great $$$$$$$$. Go for a vacation, have fun.
2006-07-28 00:37:03 · answer #2 · answered by Whitesands 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to your issue. I was in the same situation with a guy that was "supposed" to be a boxer. He was always gone. I worked really hard to support the family while he was away. Most women only see it as "he is bringing in money". There is so much more to it than that. You need companionship (hence the getting married in the first place). You get lonely which sends you into depression. Which sends you in an endless circle. I even went so far as to tell this guy that I didnt want money I wanted time. (bills were paid because I was working 2 jobs). But he always said how much he LOVED what he was doing and how he wasnt ready to stop.
So I say, either deal with it or do like I did. Get out before you drive yourself crazy!
2006-07-28 00:30:44 · answer #3 · answered by misslady792003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been clear with him about the way that you really feel about the situation? Feeling lonely is a terrible way to live. If you have not been up-front with him about your feelings, then start there. If you have and you still see no change, then it is time for you to make a choice. You need to decide if you can live this way forever, and if you can, then do that without complaint. If you can't, then you need to change the situation.
2006-07-28 00:36:04 · answer #4 · answered by princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You knew he was into his career and business when you married him...didn't you.. You probably thought you would change him, but you knew how he was. Now you are unhappy. It is your own fault. If you have no kids, divorce him and find someone else. If you have kids you are stuck in marriage. Be the best mother you can be to those kids and do the best you can to understand that you chose the man. Give him reasons to be home and with you more but do not complain that he is not.
2006-07-28 00:28:08 · answer #5 · answered by Yourname Here 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he in this career before you married him?
If so, why did you go ahead and marry him?
If not, then maybe you could sit down and talk with him about how you feel, but if he likse what he is doing, he will probably stick with it. Make sure that he isn't wanting to be away because of nagging or anything.
2006-07-28 00:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by Pichi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be happy that my husband (even though im not married) is willing to work so hard to keep our family supported..there are so many women out there that have husbands who dont work...your husband is a good guy he's taking care of his family and having fun w/ it!
2006-07-28 00:20:20 · answer #7 · answered by lilmizzerica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to stay but if its better pay maybe he should do the traveling job, if you are financially stable with him working locally and you working locally then tell him that. as long as you are not living pay check to paycheck youll be fine, dont you have money saved?
2006-07-28 00:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's got his priorities messed up. Family always comes before work.
2006-07-28 00:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by Carrie! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋