I have been w/ my bf for 2 yrs. I love him and he loves me. I also trust him. I want to have a 3some I am just afraid of the outcome. Like I said I trust him but woman have tendencies to have doubt and insecurity so should I or shouldn't I?
2006-07-27 17:04:39 · 19 answers · asked by Kat33 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
nah...you don't want him to see another woman naked or to be thinking about someone else that way do you? you're more special then that! keep it one on one, babe.
2006-07-27 17:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you plan on staying with this guy, and marrying him? if yes, than NO WAY....unless you plan on being swingers or what not for the rest of your coupledom life with him.
People get jealous. Its a fact. Also if he will do it with a girl with you there what would he do with you not there, not knowing. Threesomes tend to through relationships on a downward spiral. And if your happy than dont change it that much. He might develope trust issues too, But its not that you don't trust each other.
that is a boundary in which very few can maturely cross and not cross over to the cheating lines.
whose idea is it really to do it?
Sit down and talk to him. Openly,erenestly and dont be afraid to say no. Or say he can say no too. Confront what you both think about negs and pos. and also what about after. who? where? what ? what is allowed and whats not? and so forth.. and what happens after the other person is gone. does it happen again or with someone else. or what>>> you have to think over the little details cause if u do it and stay together it may bite you in the buttock later..
be careful
2006-07-28 00:11:48 · answer #2 · answered by SEXY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are alot of negative things that could result from this curiousity of yours. It may sound easy but when you all get ready to do it-you may freak out. All type of things have to be discussed and thought about. Do you want them two to have sex in front of you? Are you and the girl supposed to get it on too? Will there be oral sex involved-if so who can do who? Are you three going to kiss? Do you feel comfortable naked with this other woman? What happens afterward-do yall sleep together till the morning or immediately separate? Do you want it to be a secret the next day-if so do you trust this other girl or your boyfriend? What if she is better than you in the bed? What if they start to like each other? Is this supposed to be a 1 time thing or can your boyfriend get out of hand and think it should happen all the time? Who should this girl be-stranger or a friend? If you can answer all these questions and still feel confident than go for it!
2006-07-28 00:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by Nuray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 3some is NEVER a good idea. You will only regret it in the end. If he REALLY loves you he would NEVER ask and if you asked him, he would say NO.
Just think if she ends up satisfying him better than you, he will want to have sex with her more often and they may even have sex without you and expect you to be O.K. with it.
It's a place you don't want to go.
2006-07-28 00:16:17 · answer #4 · answered by #1 auntie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think that this question is really about how able you are to cope with the idea of seeing your men with another women. I do think that your curiosity is normal, but do think throughly for this will affect you and your partner in many ways. Will this small activity affect your relationship? Is your relationship in a very stable condition. Is a clear line drawn before you do this. All this is important to remove any unwanted situation.
I do hope this help
2006-07-28 00:13:37 · answer #5 · answered by Vearn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want this 3some to please yourself or your bf..are you thinking of two women and your bf or your bf and another guy? Maybe it would be a good idea if you would ask him first and if you have a person in mind let him know...
2006-07-28 00:14:31 · answer #6 · answered by emthestem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you bring a third party into your relationship, you will be unattached within 6 months. A third person puts a whole different dynamic into the mix, and it ain't pretty.
2006-07-28 00:09:03 · answer #7 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe the answers here ...
If this is a mutual desire then go for it. if not, then you need to talk it through with him first.
BTW you did not state the sex of the potential third party.
I will tell you that it is almost impossible for one male to satisfy two females at the same time.
2006-07-28 00:14:03 · answer #8 · answered by terrya1750 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO... sex should be between two people who love and respect each other. What is there to respect about the other person if they're willing to be intimate with another.
2006-07-28 00:08:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, thats a private, special thing that you share with someone you care about so much your willing to share your body and soul with them. Keep it that way...
2006-07-28 00:09:02 · answer #10 · answered by Goulet2011 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ure hott than yes have a 3 some with me
2006-07-28 00:12:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋