2006-07-27 17:04:33 · 4 answers · asked by god_iswithin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hate to sound facetious but "you just know" as in BOTH you and the guy have openly discussed love and marriage, agree you will marry, set a datefor when to get it all accomplished (usually the wedding date or a tentative date to have the wedding/honeymoon after you secure time off work), future family budget/schedle (finances/savings, who's working, how the chores will done,etc), type of wedding, size of your family (childless or number of kids) together, and are both active in the planning stage to the best of your individual abilities.
I think some fear, a small amount, before any big decision is
healthy, it just means you know its a MAJOR decision. After you've made the decision to marry (in other words, you are now engaged, ring or no ring) each other, just because you have doubts about how it's going to work out, that never means you doubt that you love that person, or that you and that person are not meant to be together. You can be scared of any major decision and make the decision and even have doubts after you make it, but that doesn't mean it was the wrong choice that you made, it just means you are human and you imperfect enough to realize that you made a choice and must work hard to stick with that decision.
2006-07-27 17:13:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's right to get married when you rule out the following reasons below:
1. your parents want you to get married.
2. your friends are all getting married and you don't want to be the "last woman out".
3. your biological clock is ticking so you want to quickly start a family.
4. you think there's no other possible man who will come into your life and so you are willing to settle with this one.
If you have no excuses to get married and you still want to get married THEN IT'S THE RIGHT TIME.
If you're scared then time is NOT right.
2006-07-28 00:37:50 · answer #2 · answered by marky m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married 23 years now..WOW, seems like yesterday. You'll know in your heart, people can't answer it for you. Trust in what your heart says. Are your plans and his plans for the future the same? Communication with him about every aspect of life is a must. Once you check out what he wants from life compare it to your plans and hopes and dreams...remember there is alot more to a marriage then just fun and sex..will you enjoy him as much 20 years from now? Ask yourself is he worth giving up your freedom and becomming one. Happy Days to you!
2006-07-28 00:14:12 · answer #3 · answered by passionate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ever body scared at first
2006-07-28 00:14:15 · answer #4 · answered by cowboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋