I met him 6 1/2 yrs ago. I knew he had 5 children, that he loved beer and he smoked everyday. Ok.. Two years ago the weed wasnt enough so he started lacing it with cocaine. Major problems behind that. He has 5 children (from the same woman) and we get them alot. That never was a problem. I actually stayed in this longer because of them. They gave me what he didnt. One day I woke up and asked myself, "what the hell are you doing?" His children are coming to me for things and they wont even ask him. I realize that things cant be the way they were. the biggest problem I have right now is the fact that he has to get high everynight. I dont smoke or drink so we dont party together. I've been telling him I am about done and he doesnt get it.I have a 12 yr old and a 15 yr old now and its not fair to keep exposing them to this kind of life I tried everything and he wont change I used to think the more I did the happier he would be .no it was the more he expected is it time 2 say goodbye?
2006-07-27 16:53:50 · 21 answers · asked by 2 real 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your first answerer said it all ---- are you 'gone' yet???
2006-07-27 16:57:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry you got put into the middle of this. It really comes down to a couple of choices for you, do you stay because of his kids or move on with your life & leave them behind. What would bother you more in the long run? Having your kids exposed to these things or leaving him & his kids? Its a tough decision but its one that unfortunately we cant make for you. Good luck!
2006-07-27 18:13:05 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sorry, it's past time to say goodbye. You nor your children deserve this life style of his. Your enabling him to live this life style by staying with him. He will continue to do as he is doing as long as you stick around and let him. I'm not saying it is your fault, so please don't take it that way. What I'm saying is if we allow a drug addict to continue their drug use, we are enabling them to continue. Your right, this is NOT fair to your kids and they should not be subjected to it. If they see their Dad using drugs, it's a good chance they will too cause they will think if it's okay for him it's okay for us. Best to give your husband an ultimatum, drugs OR you and the kids. Maybe he will wake up. I hope so for the sake of you and the kids. Bless you and good luck.
2006-07-27 17:10:06 · answer #3 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's enough to smoke weed and drink but to lace that **** with coke . That's not cool , What's sad is that his kids has to live with it and they have to see that **** that's not even close to being cool. His kids loves you i am sure they love him to but they want full attention and cant well don't get it from him , How is he going to continue on doing that to him self to his kids to his future. I had an ex who does coke and he does nothing but hurts himself.He do not see it til i see bloody up rolled up tissue in the trash and the bag or the scattered ounce of coke on the mirror in the bathroom or the bed room and that is sad the saddest part is he do it to escape what hes hiding that is probably why dude is doing it!!
2006-07-27 17:04:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was in a similar situation but even took the chance of loosing his own natural child to break off the marriage. Later his ex and her new boyfriend had major police problems. It is a pity about the kids, but it is time to think of yourself. It is his responsibility to provide and do things for them . The more you do the more he will expect you to do...Stop the heartbreak and leave....and don't be suckered back with empty promises...I will do better...I will quit...
2006-07-27 17:04:10 · answer #5 · answered by Frank 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT IS WAY PAST the time you should have said goodbye. GO NOW! Log off, get your 2 children and don't look back!
2006-07-27 16:56:00 · answer #6 · answered by 'Barn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you married to him? I have to hand it to you for helping with his children, but this is no way to live,
apparently he wants to live that kind of life and if you don't then, why have you stayed so long? Do yourself a favor and get away from him.
2006-07-27 17:09:20 · answer #7 · answered by frustrated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say pack your bags, put them on the doorstep, call a cab, and when the cab gets there tell the dope head this cab either takes you away for good, or it takes him to dry out. Let him decide, and then stick to it
2006-07-27 18:40:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u deserve better now i might be yough but i see the problem here he is addicted and i dont think u want to get cought up in his miss leave but bring down easy on him
2006-07-27 17:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear, you got into the wrong hole. i say get out before your good self overcomes your good sense. if you are concerned and got attached to his kids then just check on them from time to time , but do get out if not for yourself at least for your own kids. it is a lose-lose situation.
2006-07-27 17:02:08 · answer #10 · answered by Rolly r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you've done your best. You're a saint. It's time to throw in the towel.
2006-07-27 16:56:02 · answer #11 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋