never been to court 4 custody, she is the primary caregiver, and i pay child sup.
2006-07-27 16:50:54 · 18 answers · asked by Chad P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I mean does sum1 have an actual copy of theirordered visitation by the courts? if so id like to get a copy....thankx
2006-07-27 17:02:19 · update #1
There is no standard. Depends on the age of the kids, who has custody, their school schedule, distance you live apart, and maturity/responsiblity of the parents.
As the primary caregiver she typically gets to determine the schedule. When I was 12-16 I lived with my mother and saw my father on Wednesday evenings for dinner at a local restaurant and stayed at his house every other weekend. I believe this is typical.
Also, you usually get every other holiday then rotate the holidays the following year. For example, you get Thanksgiving this year and she gets Xmas. Next year she gets Thanksgiving and you get Xmas.
When I turned 16 the court said that I could make my own plans on where I lived and when I wanted to visit each parent. So, I moved to my father's house and visited my mother every other weekend.
Please don't use the kids as pawns to get back at your ex-wife. They will realize this and hate you for it in the future. Do whatever is in the best interest of the kids and they will appreciate and love you for it.
It can be difficult for them when they come to visit you because they may feel as visitors in your home. Strive to make them feel welcome.
Good Luck,
2006-07-27 16:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Visitation varies from state to state and is set by statute.
you can determine what is standard in your state by either contacting an attorney in your area that offers free consultations or by using the state resources at find law.
Personally as a paralegal I try to work out a joint custody/joint parenting plan with both parties.
Remember ... the position of the Court is always the best interest of the CHILD.
2006-07-27 16:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by terrya1750 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what state you live in. In my state, reasonable visitation is every other weekend and every other holiday. Also, any other time as long as 24 hr notice is given prior to the visit. It is usually decided on by the court if the parents can't agree.
2006-07-27 16:54:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on a lot of variables here...
The age of the child?
Do the parents both live in the same city? state? country?
Do you have joint custody with her as the primary caregiver?
What has been decided upon by the Judge?
Usually Dad's get the kids every other weekend and possibly one night during the week between school & bedtime.
Some parents split custody and have the child spend one week at mom's and one week at dad's if they are in the same city
It's more or less up to you and the biological mother to decide and PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE make that decision with the BEST INTERESTS OF THE CHILD in BOTH of your HEARTS and not "how can I piss off the ex more" kind of attitude.
2006-07-27 16:55:15 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have the child every other weekend from 6pm Friday until 6pm Sunday. Also usually 1 evening during the week every week. Holidays are usually divided and given alternating years with one getting Christmas eve, the other Christmas day. Mother's day to Mom, Father's day to Dad.
2006-07-27 16:55:25 · answer #5 · answered by Dino4747 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually everyother weekend and everyother holiday,sometimes joint custody is awarded and which case assuming she is gonna get the kids u can possibly get them part of summer also,,,,and if the party's are being civil parents can work around the problems of visitation,,,its always best to b civil if possible seems divorce brings out the worst in people sometimes,,,im a man and i got full custody of mine in 1989 ,,,yes i have the court papers but the women only got supervised visits and no overnights,,,,,,hahahahaha!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-27 17:03:41 · answer #6 · answered by EAGLE_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best you can ask for is JOINT custody. If you can't get that, MOST non-custodial parents get:
Every other weekend
1 day during the week (evening hours ...ie.6-9 pm)
Every other MAJOR holiday......
that is the basics in the state of PA...not sure where you are if it is the same....
2006-07-27 16:54:59 · answer #7 · answered by barb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wednesday and every other weekend.
Now, the only issue you may find is if she ever decides to take you to court to get it all legal. They probably would not take into consideration the support you have paid unless it has been paid through the courts, so just keep that in mind if you ever consider taking things to the legal level.
2006-07-27 16:54:52 · answer #8 · answered by Lanie Janie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chad= if you want to see your kids you better get a lawyer..She will get everything she wants (trust me).If you don't establish custody and visitation you will get nothing.. paying child support GOOD FOR YOU keep your records to prove it but it means nothing to the judge that you've paid it. Finally be respectful as you can to her even when you want to ring her neck, she is the mother and you attract more bees w/ honey than vinegar
2006-07-27 16:57:39 · answer #9 · answered by blue_eyed_andi70 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly i replaced into pretty fortunate easily. My dad stayed in my existence after the divorce. I said him a minimum of the different weekend and vacation trips. We took vacation trips and lengthy weekends in the course of the summer season. some purely us and some with my stepmother. i ultimately went to stay with him on the start of highschool. Now that replaced right into a significant courtroom conflict, yet a minimum of i replaced into previous sufficient by then to inform them what i needed and why. frequently the agreements count number on the amicability of the mum and father and the decide's beliefs.
2016-10-15 07:09:55 · answer #10 · answered by cottrell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋