He said all bad things he did or all his failure in life was/is/will due to me. He blamd me for everything, home and work. I tolerate him because I do not want my son to lose a family and father. My father died when I was very young, so I know the life without a father.
2006-07-27 16:30:36 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi there, don't think twice, thrice & million times. Just dump him. He have done enough harm for you & your son. Think of all the risk & factors of him sleeping with pros - moral & diseases? YOur son needs you. Would you still want to sleep with this man w/o knowing if he will pass you STD/HIV and can you carry on life to be your son if you are infected? Everyone wish for a complete family but would you rather JUST have a complete family for a sake of having a father for your son, or watch your son suffering mentally for having such a low-stoop moral father? It's not the end of the world. If you are sincere and struggle all the way in bringing up your son - Im sure he will understand & appreciate when he grows up and hopefully you would find a more suitable & honest man who could take care of you & your son. Don't hang there anymore, just leave.
2006-07-27 17:43:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All HIS failures are his own. Do NOT let him blame you for what he has done wrong in his life. One question: Is this the kind of man that you want your son to look up to?? Is this the kind of man you want your son to be like?? I wouldn't think you would. Having a father figure is good if he is a good father and husband. But when your child sees him treating you the way he does, it WILL affect your son. He will be an emotional mess before it is all over with. Think about it...........
If I were you, I would tell your husband to stay the hell away from you. He's sleeping with prostitutes so you have no idea what he's "bringing home".
2006-07-27 16:46:40 · answer #2 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So let me get this straight, Your blood pressure is way out of control over this looser, but you would rather stay with him so your son will have a father and not a mother (High blood pressure can kill you)? I wanted you to read for yourself how utterly stupid that sounds (sorry for being harsh)
You son does not need to be raised by a man that will teach him that it is OK to cheat on his wife, visit prostitutes, and blame his problems on the world.
Your son needs a mother to guide him to be a man that treats a woman with respect, he will NOT learn that seeing you stay in that kind of relationship.
2006-07-27 16:43:07 · answer #3 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not the ideal Father to his son anyway or he would
treat his son's Mother with more respect then that. If he keeps going to prostitutes he's gonna bring home a disease and he'll have neither parent, give that some thought. Stop letting him do this to you !!! Your son will
thank you one day.
2006-07-27 16:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by frustrated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want your son to lose a family and father, then left thsi jerk and find someone who appreciate you. Your son is as good as not having a father now.
2006-07-27 16:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he does is no more your fault than what I do ... or is it? Do you make me do naughty things? Oh, shame on you!
Now seriously, he controls himself as you control yourself.
YOU ARE NOT TO BE BLAMED FOR HIS ACTIONS!!!!
Save yourself! Your child will grow up thinking you condone your husband's behavior and not just that, he will never be happy as long as his mother is miserable. You will only end up hurting him more by staying.
2006-07-27 16:43:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! what we are supposed to tell you to stick it out! hell naw !he ain't right ! you know you will hurt, but you will be alright his actions are disgusting he has an issue that you cannot solve or i guess we here should say stay for the child's sake ? i dont think so! or maybe you can just wait for him to bring you home an incurable disease you know for the child's sake lets pass AIDS on to my family you don't need us to tell you what to do protect your son and your self above anything or anyone !
2006-07-27 16:54:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the hell out of there. That kid has a father but he sure needs a dad. He won't have a mother or a father when that jerk brings AIDS home.
2006-07-27 16:57:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being abused. Contact the domestic violence hotline. Join a domestic violence support group. Your HUSBAND is a SICK man. YOU NEED PROFESSIONAL help to deal with this problem. GET PROFESSIONAL help for the SAKE of your son. Be strong for your child.
2006-07-27 16:39:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
since he's so franka nd strainght about it to you, do likewaise to him.
demand him to wake up or else. divorce him and start afresh and dont fear to do so.
seems your marriage is as good as gone. break it and get a freash start and if fate is with you, there's one waiting for you and wont mind to accept your son too...there're such you know.
good luck.
2006-07-29 20:29:11 · answer #10 · answered by dream_drifter05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋