i know what to do its just so scary.he is now hooked on meth and im afraid of what he will do.we have a 11 year old and a3 year old
2006-07-27 16:21:46 · 15 answers · asked by robin c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get a restraining order and keep on with your life..
2006-07-27 16:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by sexxy mamma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG. I have been through a bad divorce, but not with a meth user. That's scary. Read the book "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bandcroft. It's a book about abusive/addicted men, and how to safely get away and get divorced.
If it were me, I'd go to a shelter. Then I'd get the authorities involved. You just have to leave when he's not around. Plan an escape. Call the domestic abuse hotline. They will tell you how to get away safely.
I was looking at sites about meth. That is a scary drug. Google search "meth pics before and after." You will see pictures of people who had been on meth, they look very old, meth ages them by about 20 years. It's scary. Meth is the drug John Couey was on when he raped and killed little Jessica. You gotta get out of there before something happens.
2006-07-27 23:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Restraining orders aren't helpful since the police will only do something if he puts his hands on you and throwing it at him won't cause injury. Ask yourself if you want your kids to grow up thinking his behavior is acceptable? If not, then call up relatives and friends to see if they can let you stay with them until you can get back on your feet. If you feel he will do harm to you or your kids then ask for a police officer to be there while you get your things and leave your kids behind at a friends or relatives house so you can assure their safety. Make sure the police are aware of the situation and they should be more supportive. The day i left my ex was the scary est day of my life but the best thing i did for my kids. Good luck.
2006-07-27 23:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If at all possible, pack you bags and take your kids to a safe place. File for divorce if you feel he will not get the help he needs. I would be afraid too if I were in your situation. First things first, protect your kids from this life style he is living and move out. Bless you..
2006-07-27 23:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot end a bad marriage. You agreed to be married to this man until death do you part. However, you can separate until he cleans himself up. You have every right to get you and your children out of the house if he's a physical or mental danger to them. Pray for his soul. God bless you and I'm very sorry.
2006-07-27 23:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by oremus_fratres 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have to get a restraining order. Seek counseling and help from social workers.
It may be necessary to distance yourself from your man at least until all this clears up. Don't take any chances.
2006-07-27 23:28:24 · answer #6 · answered by devotionalservice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know excatly what you mean well not the meth part but the ending a marriage part i have 3 children and its scary
2006-07-27 23:30:25 · answer #7 · answered by t_ibrahim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to your local pd and they can (if you don't already know) direct you to a safe house where he cant find you. Then make sure you take an officer with you if you have to pick up stuff from your house. also get a lawyer.
2006-07-27 23:27:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a good lawyer...if you cant afford one , check on Legal Aid its like free lawyer or reduced fee lawyer based on income...but it may take a while..if it does , check with your local police...
my hubby was a cop...people used to confront him all the time...they like to make busts or get drug connections...
2006-07-27 23:27:06 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get yourself and your kids out of there fast. divorce is the only way. i know its scary now but a year from now you will be so much more happier and grateful you did it.
2006-07-27 23:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by missindy46 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave and dont tellhim where you are going and get a good attorney and file for divorce.
2006-07-27 23:26:37 · answer #11 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋