I've been married for almost ten years. To this day I think my husband is hot. I want to kiss him and hold him and do all sorts of things to his body. But he is absolutely clueless. I can look real good when he comes home and he never notices. The most I get out of him anymore is a quick peck and he's glued to the tv for the rest of the night. And when we get in bed he rolls over to the other side and goes to sleep like I'm not there. Talk about depressing. I love him tons but there is no romance, intimacy or otherwise. How do I get his attention?
2006-07-27 16:00:29 · 15 answers · asked by ~SSIRREN~ 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Of course, I can't tell you exactly what may be the problem here but I can suggest that you nip this in the bud ASAP. There may be a lack of spark in your relationship simply due to "the same old ****". A trip to the local Adult Book Store may help if that's the issue. He may have some kind of "sexual issue" going on with him he may or may not be aware of. Medical assistance may be what he needs in that case. Lastly, he may already have "divorced" you in his mind because he has another partner or is looking for another partner. Regardless, you MUST talk to him and get to the bottom of this now. You both owe it to each other. Life is too short to be unhappy! Good Luck!
2006-07-27 16:16:40 · answer #1 · answered by crash1962 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing I would do if you have no children around is to pull his pants down and start sucking. This should get his attention. My ex always complained that I did not spend enough time with her, but I was trying to pay the bills while both going to school and working a full time job with over time. I barely had time for myself. It sounds like you might have to take the reigns into your own hand and get what you want.
2006-07-27 16:04:39 · answer #2 · answered by andy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a marriage counselor. First go by yourself. Then follow your counsellors advise.
I was married to a hot, cold fish. If was really frustrating for me.
I'd dress up to kill (lingerie) and he'd still watch the tv and ignore me. Unforgivable. Then, I found out that he was seeing others.
I was the wife who stayed home and took care of the kids. The
young girlfriends were his fun.
This might not be your situation. Your husband may just have a low libido. - He deserves to explain himself. But, tell him that you are not getting your needs met in the relationship and it's making you unhappy. That's where the therapy comes in. If he's not willing to go, he's selfish (and probably seeing other girls).
I now am 5 years divorced and have had a fabulous boyfriend who thinks I'm a babe. We have the sex life of teenagers. (Making up for lost time!) Maybe you should think about it.
You don't have to be held captive in a non-responsive relationship.
Best of luck to you.
2006-07-27 16:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by Linda S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hummmm? maybe you should show up at his work for a surprise lunch you have made just for him!!!
in the mean time, dress as sexy as you can, and just see whats so much more interesting to HIM at work than YOU when he gets home!
who knows, maybe you'll get "noticed" by some of his co-workers and that might just be the trick to it all honey!
read between the lines, there is a hidden message here, think about it! think you can figure it out;) good luck hun.
2006-07-27 16:07:58 · answer #4 · answered by babydoll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just missing the clues, which, from your description, don't strike me as very noticeable. Have you tried a more direct approach? Have you tried teasing him a little before he leaves for work? Have you tried the "cave girl" approach and just attacked him? Why should HE have to initiate sex?
2006-07-27 17:01:17 · answer #5 · answered by rb42redsuns 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try doing stuff thats romantic. have him come home to you naked with only whipped cream on. YOU have to reteach him how to be romantic. Go to the adult store and buy the kit that teaches you how to strip tease dance. buy a game! buy a few toys for him to use on you.
good luck.
2006-07-27 16:04:33 · answer #6 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the next time you hint and he does nothing, pull out a toy and take care of yourself. if that doesn't get his attention, he's getting attention from some one else.
2006-07-27 16:10:09 · answer #7 · answered by southernmiss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's probably impotent and trying to avoid you because it's embarrassing to admit that kind of stuff.maybe he's tired from work and feels overwhelmed by your need for attention and wants to enjoy leisure time to watch t.v.
2006-07-27 16:07:14 · answer #8 · answered by bumblebee_chola 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Greet him at the door naked, take a romantic weekend, etc... Sounds like your in a rut
2006-07-27 16:05:34 · answer #9 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried telling him how you feel?
Communication is very important in a marriage.
2006-07-27 16:05:06 · answer #10 · answered by cheeky chic 379 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋