is it normal as a man for my best friend to be an attractive female and not want to have sex with her and just be best friends.Guy's always tell me i am lying when i say that but i'm not i just find women more trust worthy and easier to confide in than men cause if a guy goes to another guy crying about issues then he is considered weak that's why i stopped befriending men so much they are dissloyal.
2006-07-27 15:59:55 · 15 answers · asked by metal maniac 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Nope. there will ALWAYS be the opposite sex dynamic--even if you never speak of it.
2006-07-27 16:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by Love2Sew 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, there is no problem with you. Sometimes men are not good listeners to sensitive feelings issues or awkward personal relationships. Men do not like tender.... we tend to be "sport talk".
Just because she is attractive does not mean she does not deserve friends, and you are being a friend to her.
Second, normally it is very hard to stay friends with a person from the opposite sex. We are creatures of our desires. We cannot help this....
There are natural tendancies to grow closer when there is a physical attraction, but people get more attractive to each other the more they relate to each other. Physical becomes less important.
It sounds like she is a sounding board for your issues. It is great to find someone that you can talk to. It does not matter what sex or race or religion - a friend is a good thing to find.
One thing though, she may be attracted to you without you knowing - and you may in the future be attracted to her.... so be on the look out for signs when either of you may want to take a next step. It would be bad to step to a deeper relationship without an understanding of both of your feelings. Good luck
2006-07-27 16:12:52 · answer #2 · answered by Kerry Z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do we constantly allow guys to depict the way we feel or behave.
I'm sure most of us feel that we are independent self-reliant women yet when a guy doesn't call, we feel like ****. Suddenly we are no longer confident. Does he not like me anymore? Like wat the ****. I need to get off that hook. I need to think that i can move on. I know i can but i need time. After that i want no more emotional attachments cos they eventually hurt u. But i know no matter how much u tell urself to keep things simple..it becomes complicated.
Sch is ******* stressful with mid-terms on their way and project deadlines approaching like a looming dark cloud. Life has never been this stressful and boring. It's a routine. Sch-project meeting-home. But i dun think i can handle any distraction. It'll be too hectic. But my darlings..u can come and disturb me anytime. I appreciate the asking of my well being and concern from u people. It really helps.
I just want to make sure i never fall into the trap again. No matter how shitty or boring life can be..it's still better than having ur heart heaved out of ur body and being trampled on.
When i see someone in love, i feel like yanking their heads out and filling it with hate. I wonder what's so especially abt love that one actually forgets his own identity? I'm not toking without experience..Infact i can say with much certainty that I hate the feeling of being in love..It makes u weak, vulnerable, clingy, wide-eyed, dreamy and so many other words i can come out with that associate back to being a loser.. Where's the strong, up-town, sophisticated, I-Know-i can -make-it on-my-own woman? I'm really a huge feminist.. which is why i dun give a **** abt what a guy has to offer me cos it's never enough and also i can get watever i want myself!
2006-07-27 16:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by Princess illusion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is way normal..i have allot of guy friends and we would never take it off the' friends 'level.... i read a article and it explained why and what we get (positive things) from being friends with the opposite sex. people can learn allot of different ways men and women think and behave from our friendships, and successfully use it to better their romantic relationships! people are closed minded and i cant stand people who don't believe men and women can just be friends.
2006-07-27 16:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by pinksgirlfriend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY!!! I am a happily married woman who happens to find that im more comfy with other men as close friends... you know who you are and how you feel so why should what others say have an effect.... be you screw them
2006-07-27 16:03:33 · answer #5 · answered by Jenna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with having a platonic relationship with women. I have plenty of male friends and they don't push the limits with me, but they do appreciate my female-centric advice often
2006-07-27 16:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having friends of the opposite sex is a great friendship!!!!
2006-07-27 16:02:47 · answer #7 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say normal. friends are friends whether female or male. if you prefer female friends, that's ok. you don't have to be in love with them if they are beautiful. if you are not in love or sexually attracted to your lovely friend, that's ok, too. when you do fall in love, whether she's a close friend or not, then that too is ok.
2006-07-27 16:06:46 · answer #8 · answered by MS SQLServer Novice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it grat to have a friend who is a gurl.. exspecially if shes just a friend b.c then ya; can get each others perspectives on sex's
2006-07-27 16:05:02 · answer #9 · answered by TNQE H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's awsome you don't want to have sex with her.
I wish there was someone like you over here.
2006-07-27 16:03:38 · answer #10 · answered by Byebye Kitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋