my husband has an affair?

Question

my husband has affair with another woman I want to know what should I do please help me I need advise quick!!

Answer 1

Are you better off with or without him?

Make a list with two columns - TOGETHER and APART.

List all your reasons to stay together and all the reasons why you should be apart. Think about it.

If it's together than you two need to talk. He also needs to be checked for sexually transmitted diseases and you need proof that he was checked. You both need to set out what your expectations are of the marriage from that time on and what the consequences will be if they are violated.

If it's apart then you two need to talk. If you've been intimate since he's had the affair going on, he still needs to be checked for STDs. You need to decide then how the union is going to end.

Think about your decision carefully.

The best of luck to you.

Answer 2

No one can tell you what to do, that is something each person has to decide on their own. Some will say leave him, some will say stay. I can tell you this from my own
experience if you can forgive him honestly and let it go
and make your marriage work then great but if you cannot forgive and forget it, it is like a raw sore constantly between you and you will never get over it
and he will never hear the end of it.

Answer 3

first of all...been there hunny..

I dont know the whole situation but I would..
1. Get it on audio and video (make 3 copies of each)
2. Check on cell phone bills (there may be more than one..i didnt know until I asked the girlfriend and she told me about the first one)
3. Make sure no kids are around...it will get ugly
4. confront him , tell him you know....give him one copy of the photos and audio.
5. seperate....right then..he moves out...but still pays half the bills
6. hire a lady lawyer who hates men...take her advice...dont let him talk you out of anything...dont let him steer you wrong...an attorney has dealt with this daily ....listen to them!
7. Agree on counseling...individual and together...
at that point you will know kinda what you want to do...
I feel for you..been there...its the absolute worse feeling in the world...Going on 2 years and still dealing with it daily..

Answer 4

Thats a hard one. Alot of things you need to ask yourself. Like do I love him enough to forgive him? Does he still love me? Is he through with her? Will he consider going to a marrage counsler? Cause you will need one. There will be alot for both of you to deal with. Trust is the big issue and being able to rebuild that may not work out. Im sorry this happerned to you and I hope it all works out.

Answer 5

You should confront him. But have your next line ready. He may deny it, he may tell you he loves her. Be prepared with a response for him. If you think you want to forgive , still rewind and try to figure out what drove him there . Wish you luck.

Answer 6

u shouldnt be disscusing this info with people on here cause alot of them are childish. but you should tell him u know and if he would do that 2 u then he doesnt love u and u should leave him

Answer 7

You should also have one till husband knows it

Answer 8

Talk about your problems consider counseling and try to work things out. good luck and maybe this site might help. :-)

Answer 9

Have you ever asked him why? I know it will be painful but you need to know. when He tells you why then that will give you some direction.

Answer 10

Ask him or better yet, follow him or get someone to follow him around.