..i know that someone out there is gonna say .."it depends on the situation"..or or.."it depends whether trust is invovled"...i dont want these types of answers...i want a well thought answer.
2006-07-27 15:37:50 · 27 answers · asked by mike 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sorry has several parts. 1> I regret you were hurt. 2> I admit to doing something wrong. 3> I promise to avoid doing anything like that to you again.
2006-07-27 15:39:22 · answer #1 · answered by Tony T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When one says "I am sorry" there are a number of things they might mean. Sometimes it means "I am reciting this magic formula so that you will forgive me and allow us to get back to normal." In other words, someone can say "I am sorry" simply because they want to restore good feelings between themself and someone else. There may not be any real regret in this case, as the offender probably does not feel he/she did anything significant in the first place. It is simply employing a "magic formula" to return a friendship to good terms.
Sometimes "I am sorry" means little more than "oh, give it a rest, will ya?" This is an anwer I have heard many times; the one "applogyzing" really means "you are making a big deal out of nothing." The difference between these two is that in the second one, the answer really does not sound quite like "I am sorry" even though the words are used. It is almost like a statement of exasperation at someone who is holding onto a grudge.
Often I hear "I really am feeling bad because I said/did this." I think girls mean this sometimes, and it is usually a more genuine request. The person realizes that they hurt another and actually feels badly.
And between husbands and wives I have heard (and used) "I am sorry" which really meant "OK, I am telling you want you want to hear so you will stop nagging about it." The real motive is, again, not so much one of regret, but one of surrender. The husband just does not want anymore pouting/nagging, etc. And yes, husbands do also pout/nag/whine for their wives to say "I am sorry."
And everyone has heard "I don't care what you think" when someone is angry and is saying "I am sorry." In reality, these are words of spite, which mean exactly that the appologyzer not only has no regret, but probably feels the other person should be saying the magic formula.
One of the worst types of "I am sorry" is heard when someone who is convinced that they are soooo much better than someone else. They might say "I am sorry" which actually means "you poor jerk, that is just too bad." I have witnessed this when rich people are speaking to poorer people. It is usually stated in an almost completely sarcastic manner. I hate this one!
"I am sorry" is truly a magic formula that people use for many purposes. But I think we need to really listen to hear what the person saying it actually means.
2006-07-27 15:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by Don H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend if the person who is saying sorry how much emotion they put into it.
Now if someone said sorry and you that left you to feel did they mean it I would say they didn't.
But if they said sorry and you were felt they meant it they probably did.
It is always about what impression the person has left.
Now just say if a man belted his wife up every Friday night when he got drunk, and then every Saturday morning he would say "I am so sorry I didn't know what I was doing because I was drunk" and then went out to sweeten things up by buying a gift.
That I would say is a repeated action and he has found his way around her.
Now if it is a one off thing, and they say it won't happen again, and it doesn't happen I would say that person was sincere with their apology.
I still take it back to how you felt at the time the person said it.
Love & Blessings
Milly
2006-07-27 15:49:24 · answer #3 · answered by milly_1963 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a problem thinking I in some way am responsible for stuff that I am not I genuinely feel sorry and heartbroken. I'll give you an example my Lil sis had her first paycheck from her first job and took me out she lost a $20 bill and it upset her and I cried with her and then took $20 out of my purse and put it under my car seat finding it and giving it to her so she wasn't out $20. I have never told that until now. So yes when I say I'm sorry I MEAN I AM SORRY!~!~
2006-07-27 15:45:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone once told me that the word "sorry" means you'll never do it again. I suppose for many of us it means some sort of regret or admittance of wrong doing. However I believe that we abuse the word and use it as a way of excusing our bad behavior .....behavior that we know is inappropriate or distasteful or lacking in manners or just plain wrong.
I'd like to going back to what that person once told me.....that saying I'm sorry should mean an admittance of a wrong done to another and the commitment to do our best not to repeat that wrong.
2006-07-27 15:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have a bad habit of saying I am sorry all the time in tons of situations and sometimes i mean it and sometimes I am just saying it because I don't know what to say however when I am actually appologizing and saying sorry for something I do mean it
2006-07-27 15:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on who they are. Some people just say,"Sorry" because that's what they were taught. But others genuinely mean it. Like I said, it just depends on the person.
2006-07-27 15:40:41 · answer #7 · answered by Triggity B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
10% of the time
2006-07-27 15:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by shortyP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry is also mean that " I am sorry to have a friend like you"...I am sorry that I can't make you less stupid than you are right now"...I am sorry to get to know you"....too many way to say to sorry...that is just the way to get out of tough situation they are being stuck.
2006-07-27 15:46:01 · answer #9 · answered by Duke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell by the tone of the voice and what they r willing to do to show they r sorry. Some people mean it and some people just say it to get others of their back.
~Rickeisha
2006-07-27 15:40:04 · answer #10 · answered by Rickeisha AKA Keisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋