My huspand wants me to get an abortion. I already have a 5 year old son with my huspand. He has a daughter that is 18 months from an affair. I am 28 years old and already had an ectopic pregnancy in which they had to remove my left fallopian tube. An one abortion, after the ectopic pregnancy because we were going thru a separtation. At the time, I had that abortion I was not working and I had my son to think about. I had this abortion because prefer to give a good life to one child that a bad life to two. Know that we have being together again, he wants me to have an abortion. His reasons are that in the future we will be better of, and that I will start a new job soon as a teacher and I may be fired when they find out that I am pregnant. I do not want to have an abortion, I felt very bad when I had that the other one done. He does not understand. My feelings are that it will come to a point in which I will have to choose one, my huspand or the keeping the baby.
2006-07-27 15:27:11 · 10 answers · asked by Camila Alina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry, for spellings and grammar I have being under alot of stress.
2006-07-27 15:29:50 · update #1
My ectopic pregnancy was with the IUD
And the last two( including this one) had being under the pill.
2006-07-27 15:39:00 · update #2
Personally I do not agree with abortion as there are too many couples out there that want a child and can't have one and have to wait many years to adopt, that being said no one can decide what you should do except for you. This man is selfish all the way around, he can go out and have an affair and bring a child into the world with his mistress but can't have a child with his wife. If you want this child then have it even if it means rasing it on your own, plenty of women are single moms with more than one kids and the kids are fine if the mother does what she can to make sure they are loved. If you don't want it fine but don't abort it give it to some couple who will love and cherish it. As far as being fired teachers get pregnant all the time and they are still teaching. If he can't accept a child he created with his wife then he doesn't deserve the wife or the child.
2006-07-27 15:46:32 · answer #1 · answered by Martha S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The older the fetus is in the womb the greater the bad karma from an abortion. Although we should be extremely cautious about sx inside or outside of marriage, it is the nature of sx to bewilder our minds into getting neglectful.
It is worse karma to abort a child if no real health issue exists.
As you sow so shall you reap.
You should both start getting regular spiritual counseling and guidance along with other therapy and assistance from social workers.
2006-07-27 16:26:00 · answer #2 · answered by devotionalservice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one on this site can tell you what to do but just opinions and my opinion is to have the baby God will see you through no matter what and it may be his way of giving you someone that will love you unconditionally and not when its convenient for them he has already had an affair girl move on with your life and don't look back my kids are there for me at all times now 14 and 12 and i look back and wondered what my life would have been without them and I can't imagine ...God has given you agift don't return it because you may not have this chance again ..But look into your heart is this guy really worth it and don't think you can't make it you can and YOU will....
2006-07-27 15:46:42 · answer #3 · answered by classy chic 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can you live with yourself after killing a human being because that's exactly what you would be doing? He doesn't understand because he is not the one carrying the child, nor would he be the one to have to go through the emotional roller coaster after the abortion. Sounds like you need to rethink your way of contraception.
2006-07-27 17:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off why are you still with a guy who has a baby with someone else... anyways... where are you morals? You are killing innocent lives because you can't use protection! there are plenty of couples who would love to adopt a baby. Your not going to be fired because you get pregnant thats why you have maternity leave! you reall need tothink about what you are doing! Murder is a sin!
2006-07-27 15:35:35 · answer #5 · answered by Dana J 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all they can not fire you because you are pregnant, thats a nice lawsuit if they do. I wouldnt have an abortion because your husband told you to, its up to you...And why are you staying with someone who cheated on you and had a kid, why didnt she have an abortion???? I would tell your husband bye, bye
2006-07-27 15:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want the abortion, don't get it. IF he loves you and wants to be with you he will stay. IF not, then you are better off and have not damaged yourself emotionally anymore!
2006-07-27 16:07:36 · answer #7 · answered by adm2576 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a lot of those things is damaging isn't it?
YOu have to start using some form of contraception if you don't want kids. Simple as that.
2006-07-27 15:31:57 · answer #8 · answered by revoltix 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would keep the baby and send him packing if he loves you he should want the baby
2006-07-27 15:47:53 · answer #9 · answered by garedneck332000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg! no one here can tell you what to do. You have to do what feels right in your heart, honey. Good luck to you!
2006-07-27 15:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by stickan8 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋