Does a man's character actually matter to a woman?

Question

You have to wonder, when you see so many women going for the abusive, unfaithful bad boys, while confident, honest men are dismissed as boring.

Does that mean that a man who mistreats a woman is exciting?

Answer 1

The type of women that go for those men have so little self-esteem that they think the only man they can get is the scourge of society. In their way of thinking even warped love is better then no love at all.
MOST women don't go for those kind of men but you don't hear about them because it's boring, no story there.
Women absolutely DO care about a mans character...ignore the culls out there, they're the exception not the norm.

Answer 2

No, it just means that some women are prone to the violence and abuse.

Personally, I was raised with abusive men, so when I began dating, I sought abusive men and I thought that was all I deserved/needed, until I met a nice, honest "good" guy and we became friends. Months later we're dating and I can't remember ever being happier. Just had to see the other side of the playing field, and boy is it beautiful.

I don't think it's an excitement, as much as it could be something they're so used to they don't know anything else (used to be me) or they like the 'bad boy' thing and think they can tame him into being a 'good guy'.

You do make an interesting point though.

Answer 3

It depends on what's psychologically wrong with the woman. Typically, women who were abused as children seek out abusers. There is a way to break the cycle, though, but it takes admitting you have a problem with men and getting help.

Character really does matter, though. You can be a nice guy but be very boring, or you can be an abuser and have great charisma. The difference is a level of confidence and leadership skills. You also have to respect women but be forward enough to actually flirt with them and ask them out. I've known plenty of nice guys that just wouldn't make the first move, and the girls they liked wondering what was wrong with themselves that the guy wouldn't.

I finally ended up with the right kind of guy. A shy, sweet, smart computer geek who was a virgin when we got married. He's a natural leader and has a great sense of humor. He's an excellent conversationalist. He used to be too shy to talk to girls, but took a chance with me. What do ya know, I said yes! So after dating for a few months he got up the gumption to propose. Again, I said yes. He said asking me out and proposing were the two worst, most nerve-wracking experiences of his life, but if he hadn't done it we'd never be having our anniversary next Monday and expecting our first baby in 7 weeks!

Answer 4

No it doesn't....the problem is that men don't usually show there true colors for a long time by then we are so "In love" we can accept it with the want to change and help him.Not that we like being abused.I would love to find a good man...read my blog on my yahoo360 page and you will see,I am presently with a psychologically abusive man,not because I like the abuse but before I knew he had 5 kids,a felony,is a compulsive liar,would rather jack-off then have sex,is still in flirtating relationships(possibly cheated @least once,but I would lay a million dollar bet way more than once but leaving no evidence just RED flags) with quite a few of his ex's,has more interest in others than he has in me anymore,lots more but I don't want to bore you anymore,but it is finally over I think...he has finally fessed up he is NOT going to even *try* to compromise anything,and I am sick of being the one to hurt and being the one to compromise...I can't mentally handle it anymore.Before I knew these things I was falling in love and he pushed his way into my home to live. Sorry to make my answer so long but couldn't help it.Peace,Love,&Happiness to All....I wish I could meet a man like you....Have a Great Night!!!!

Answer 5

A man's character matters a lot to me. When women are with the abusive men, the woman usually has a self esteem problem.

Answer 6

Some women don't know what a loser they're dating. Guys who are abusive have seriouse issues. Women usually go for men of good character. Maybe the women you are referring to don't have a real good grasp on what "quality and character" are. They are either in the dark about the guy or they dont care becasuse they are looking for something else...not true love or high morals and values.

Answer 7

No, that's not what it means. It means that a woman who goes for those types of men has no self-respect and doesn't expect to be treated decently. She thinks she doesn't deserve a good man. Keep looking and stay away from needy women. You should be looking for a woman with self-confidence who would knock the crap out of a guy who mistreated her. Good Luck, Dude!

Answer 8

Unfortunately a lot of women go for the "bad boys". They seem to think that their charm and caring ways will change him. It won't. I made this mistake with my first marriage. I learned pretty fast that when you get the tiger you can't expect to have a pussycat. The second time around I looked for someone more stable and less dangerous. He still has enough of an edge to make him masculine and that's all I needed.

Answer 9

There is a weird masichistic thrill in being a victim for some women. But really, the mean ones usually start out nice. Then they start by joking and calling her mean names, that lowers her self esteem, then playfully hitting, then all out abuse. It starts out in small little ways, but soon he'll make her think she is worthless and no one else will take her. She stays with him because she thinks that she loves him but really she is too afraid to leave.

But yes, character matters. Sometimes you have to kiss a lot of toads before you find your prince.

Answer 10

I think character matters, now if a guy mistreated myself, he would have to have surgery to remove is nads out of his stomache. I often wondered why women even men stay with someone who treats them like crapola! Maybe they have no self esteem and think they are worth less so it ok to be treated badly. Who know....