Would you forgive?

Question

I have cheated on my wife I love her and our infant and do not want to lose them what can I do to save it. Have you ever been cheated on or cheated how to you make it up to him/her?

Answer 1

You are apeice of **** I hope you tell her then do it again get caught and she leaves you finds a good husband and father for her and the baby and you live a pathetic exsitence of guilt and despair

Answer 2

I've cheated and have been cheated on. It's the worst possible thing you can do in a relationship, it kills trust and trust is one of the strongest things that holds a relationship together. She will feel betrayed. People are going to say that if you love her then you wouldn't have cheated, but that isn't always true. The best thing you could do is tell her (if she doesn't already know) because it will help a lot for her to know that you were man enough to come to her with it instead of her having to find out on her own. Show her how much you love her and how much you regret it, as hard as it is to hear, this won't be over anytime soon. You will have to work at it for a longggg time, she can't just forget, she may forgive, but she will never forget. I suggest offering to go to a marrage councler with her because you want to show her that you want to make it right. It's a hard one, not sure if I helped, but good luck

Answer 3

First of all you should ask yourself why you cheated on your wife to begin with if you love her that much knowing that you could lose her if she ever found out?
Secondly you should ask yourself if you will ever cheat on her again if your wife forgave your adultry. once you have answered those questions to yourself, you should then tell your answers to your wife.
I am a female and honesty is the main key to gain back trust in a relationship. She still may not forgive you or then again she might but to give her anything less than honesty is a HUGE mistake! Good luck

Answer 4

I've been on the recieving end of a cheater. It's the worst feeling in the world. To know that your physical love is no enough for the one your with. To know that they'd rather feel an unfamiliar hand touching them than yours just rivets your world.
You have to leave it up to them to find it in their hearts to forgive you. Other wise just let it go and learn from it for your next relationship. Some people never forgive. I bet your best bet would've been never to tell in the first place. Do not ever cause that much pain to someone.
Just be a good dad. Don't ever cheat again! With anyone at anytime in your life. If you do it again knowing what you know now then your STUPID!

Answer 5

Good on you for asking this question. Honesty, can change your wife's mind. Better she find out from you than other people, or a little bird.

She might hit the roof, but realize at least you told her before someone else do. You might loose her trust and become a beginning of a rough ride in your marriage. That does not mean, another excuse to pick up another affair.

You are to be patient and earn her trust again if you really love her like you said.

Cheers

Answer 6

There is no way to ever make up for cheating on a loved one, especially a woman who has just given you a baby.
She maybe able to forgive you "some day" but it isn't something she will ever forget.
And it isn't something that she will be able to forgive any time soon.

Like most women she will probably stay with you because she loves you and for the babies sake. But you are going to have to do alot of *** kissing.

Actually what you are going to have to do is to ask her for forgiveness and tell her that you realize that it may take along time for her to give it.
You are going to have to make sure that you do not give her any other reason to mistrust you....Meaning your gonna have to come straight home from work, stay home with her and the baby when your not at work, if you make any kind of phone calls make sure you do them in front of her and not in another room.
Your going to have to show her some affection and love.
Your going to have to help her with the baby and give her some alone time for herself because she has alot of mixed feelings right now, alot of messed up hormones from giving birth.
And make damn sure if she hollers at you about cheating that you sit and take it without yelling back at her or getting pissed and walking out the door. After all it was YOU that made the mistake and wants forgiven.
For pete's sake, the woman already feels unattractive, fat, ugly, and everything else from just having a baby, her emotions are already fragile from hormones.
You picked a hell of a time to cheat.

And make sure you tell her and SHOW her how sorry you are for what you did.

Answer 7

My ex cheated on me. It is the most hurt I have ever suffered. I felt like my heart was broken. I wish that he had of wanted ( at that time) to try and make it up to me. But he did not. He and I got a divorce and he married the 20 year old that he had been having an affair with.
Sounds like you know you made a mistake and want to change and make things right. It takes a lot of time and patience and LOVE.

Answer 8

My ex. cheated on me the first thing I did was to be tested for S.T.D.s The second thing I did was thank God for me not having any. The third thing I did was get rid of him. Don't make the Mother of your infant,sleep with every person the woman you slept with has slept with. You should tell her for the heath of the woman you say you love. If you are very, very, very, lucky she just might forgive you when she finds out you haven't given her any S.T.D.s. Think about it wouldn't you want to know just in case. Just remember, You cannot not survive Aids.

Answer 9

I think that cheating is one of the most hurtful inconsiderate things you can do to a family. I am not sayin that to make you feel bad, I am saying it because its true.. I suggest the best way for you to make it up to her is to go see a marriage/family therapist to figure why in the world you would cheat on her to begin with, why you would want to do that to your family, and figure out what you are going to change about yourself to get your family through this..
I have been cheated on . and it hurts.. but no matter what temtation is in front of me, I would never cheat and in all these years I never have... I would be honest with my spouse and tell them i was having second thoughts about our marriage before I would do somthing like that..Its hard to make up for somthing like this because of a sexual impulse.. There is no excuse for it no matter what, so there really is nothing you can say, You can only do.. Prove to her that you are a better man than that.. I wish you luck, because you've already shown her that your not!

Answer 10

It will definitely take time for her to trust you again. If you truly love her and this was a horrible mistake, then there is hope...if she truly loves you. A commitment has to work both ways. Would you be able to forgive her if she had done the same to you? Do the two of you want to spend the rest of your lives together? If so, then you both have to be willing to make that commitment...for better or worse, in good times and bad...love forgives but never takes advantage.

Answer 11

Well, I've been in a pretty serious relationship, but he cheated on me and I broke it off. We weren't married nor did we have a child, but I see cheating as a sign of extreme disrespect to me, and how could I know he wouldn't cheat again even if he said he wouldn't? I wish you all the best though, and I hope it works out for the sake of your baby.