Im married wtih 2 kids, me and my wife dont have anything in common and i met someone on the internet?

Question

i met someone on the net and shes from australia and i think i love her but i dont know what to do and she wants me to move there but i love my kids. what should i do

Answer 1

PLEASE, forget this women. I'm telling you from experience. Please do not do this. I did and married this person. It's the BIGGEST mistake I have ever made in my life. I'm telling you, don't do it. You cannot trust people on the net. They say the things you want to hear. Once you give your life to them, all that changes. This of course is AFTER you have lost everyone you ever loved. Because I'm telling you, your wife will never forgive you, your kids will end up hating you, your family will turn their backs on you AND the guilt will eat you alive. The best thing you can do is to end the relationship ASAP and go into counseling with your wife and try to save your marriage. Something I wish I would have done. Now it's too late. I have lost so much because of my stupidity. Please, don't do it.

Answer 2

I don't know about you, but are you truly sure that the person you met on the internet is true to you. If it's one thing I've learned in life is that family is the most important thing in this world. You say you and your wife don't have anything in common but there was once a time when you were very fond of her, is it not? What made you two click before? What happened over the years that made you grow apart from her? Do you love her? If you do, fight for what you once had. It wouldn't be a great feeling to live wondering what would have happened if you tried one last time. If you do not love her, then there is no point beign with someone you don't love, because your lying to that person. Moving to Australia is a very risky move, why would you want be so far away from your kids? They don't deserve that. You are their father and you have an obligation to be in their lives. If this person from the net, says she loves you, then she will understand that you cannot leave your kids. Don't make a drastic desition without thinking about it deeply. You wouldn't want to make a mistake and ending up alone. If you still love you wife, make it work, find the spark that used to be in both your lives. It will be hard, but in the end, it is really worth it. We should always cherish thoose who love us and care for us. In the end, that is what really matters. Remember all the times your wife has been there for you in good and bad times. If you don't love her, don't let her still fantasize about something that doesn't exist. But moving to Australia is preatty harsh. You are still responsible for your kids and you should be in their lives. If the net girl you met loves you truly, she will uderstand. Why doesn't she move where you live? Remember, what I am telling you is just my opinion and only take it as such. In the end, you are the one that is going to have to make the desition, and the desition affect only you and thoose around you, not me. Do what your heart truly desires, but think wisely of your desition, because once you make it, their is no turning back. You have to deal with what comes as it is.

Answer 3

You are suffering from boredom and escapism. The grass seems greener on the other side of the fence. Look around at your life, then look back at yourself and you'll find a lot of things you're unhappy with. Improve yourself, then consider your marriage. Also, any woman who woiuld break up your home ultimately won't work out, either. You are already cheating, which means you aren't honoring your covenant with your wife. If you must, end your relationship and seek a divorce, but don't go straight to the next . Give yourself and your kids a breather and some time, space and perspective. If Australia really loves you, she'll wait.

Answer 4

First of all you need to put those kids first in your life, but you should really think about this or is this just something new and exciting for you, and 1 or 2 months you will be missing your wife and kids, people can tell you anything over the internet, you really do not know them until you know them, so be careful before you throw something away that you might regret for the rest of your life. Just remember those kids have feelings too.

Answer 5

leave her alone(australia girl). dont cheat and lie cause thatll make you a pathetic foolish coward and loser... either talk things out w your wife regarding counseling or divorce, did u guys try new sexual activities? But if you feel that cheating is the best way to go at least find someone nearby, ya know in the u.s.. Does the other woman know about ur wife? cuz if she does then that speaks incredibly low of her, why leave one woman and go to someone who will most likely play you for a fool in front of your kids and anyone else. remember kids-no matter how young- see everything and remember damn near everything- do you want them to think of daddy that way.
God forbid if you have a daughter, she notice that about you, if she cant trust daddy she wont trust anyone, n u dont want ur sons if you have one or any to treat a WOMAN not a teeny bopper or girl but a woman someone whos worth the utmost respect any different, im not educated on the relationship of u and ur parents but would you want someone treating your mother like that

all im saying is things are already screwed up pretty badly dont make it any worse and choose ur next steps wisely...

Answer 6

Well its easy to deal with the wife you already know what she is like. Do you think mate that the Aussies woman is waiting at the rose garden for you? Better the ghost we know than the one we do not know.

If you do not have things in common with your wife, then you were looking in a wrong direction in your marriage.

Marriage is about two different character who comes together and learn how to utilize their differences to make it work in every area of marriage.

All the best if you decide to leave your wife or meeting double trouble.

Answer 7

Think about WHY you married your wife. This chick in Australia is just the devil in disguise. Your marriage should be your first priority. Everything that looks good, isn't good for you.

You have a wife that loves you, and she gave you children. If you're going to leave her, be a REAL MAN and tell her. Pack your S*IT and get ready for spousal support and child support. Once you're broke you'll see how much that Aussie really loves you...

Reality CHECK time...

Answer 8

Did your marriage vows mean anything to you? Does your wife know of this person in Australia? Are you that selfish, that you want to hurt your kid's for the sole purpose of your pleasure? It sounds like to me your wife doesn't know. You are already looking for justification for an act, you are about to do and know is wrong. In this case, follow your heart. But remember, this type of marriage (commitment) is the same reason for the moral decay of our society. Sometimes the grass isn't as green when you get there, and sometimes you end up standing in cow patties....

Answer 9

Don't be an idiot.. how's that for a direct answer.
I feel sorry for your wife.... but.. come to think of it..maybe you should leave.. move all your stuff across the ocean and hook up w/ this cyber love of your life.... you will get what you deserve w/ this internet chick..and your wife could find a man more deserving of her and the kids.

Answer 10

You have two children. You and your wife had something in common at one point in your life. Get off of the Internet and find the common ground once again. There must have been something about her that made you fall in love with her the first time. Go search for it again. she may surprise you.