Only for those of you who are adopted -- Please elaborate?

Question

* How was or is your experience of being adopted?
* Have you met your biological parents?
* Do you wish you have grown with your biological parents?
* Would you adop a child?

Answer 1

My adoptive family had some major issues and problems, and was fairly dysfunctional, but I was adopted through a private lawyer and it was back in the 1950's when background and all wasn't thoroughly researched like it is today.

When I was growing up, I would sometimes wonder if my birth mother ever thought of me, and wonder why she didn't want me.

I met my birthmother and half-siblings several years ago, and it was a wonderful experience for me. My birthmother and I exchanged letters for seeral months before we met. It was good to know the circumstances of my birth and adoption, and it was good closure for me. I have chosen at this point not to have an ongoing relationship, for a variety of reasons. I have little contact with my adoptive parents as well.

Knowing what I know now, no, I do not wish I had grown up in my birth-family. As dysfunctional as my adoptive family was, I was better off to have been there if the choice was between the two. I would be a very different person now had I been raised differently. In my adoptive home I was an only child with a lot of privileges because it was a middle class family. They were also a religious family, and for that I am grateful. In birth family, I would have been oldest of five, with all the responsibilities that usually requires, and it was a poor family, so I would have missed out on a lot of cultural things, plus they were agnostic.

I would definitely have considered adopting a child, had my adult life turned out differently than it did. (I gave birth to four children, and married a man with two ... our home was full)

Answer 2

well my mom was on a bunch of drugs and stuff.so i was put in foster care.well this really nice family adopted me.i do wander what my mom waz like or if she loved me and what is she doen right now or what she looks like.but were ever she is i hope she knows i still love her.