how do i stop thinking gay thoughts?

Question

im14 and ive always like girls but now im starting to look at boys. how do i stop it?

Answer 1

Your thoughts will not condemn you; only your actions will. Just don't do anything that you think is wrong and you will be at peace with yourself.

Answer 2

Acknowledge that though boys are totally sexy with their muscular frames and gigantic , they're still dirty, smelly, loudmouthed jerks!

Or something like that. Honestly, you can't force yourself to change your beliefs, but if you've had a sexual attraction to females previously, chances are you're not gay (or you're bisexual at least). If this is the case, and you're just being influenced by society, or if you just have it both ways and got a little accelerated in one area due to puberty, you can probably just voluntarily expose yourself to propaganda of two kinds:
1.) Girls are totally hot and gay bonding is totally platonic and nonsexual.
2.) Gayness is a sin. A sin I tell's ya! and since you're a good little boy, you're not a sinner. Therefore, you're not gay.

Of course, if you ARE gay (I'm not saying you are) you should probably accept and come to terms with that. Doesn't mean you have to actively pursue a homosexual relationship: after all, there are people over the world who don't pursue ANY sexual relationship! Personally, I couldn't care less, but if you don't want to be attracted to boys then that's your priority...

Hopefully people will take this question seriously and have better answers than the one I gave. Ahh well.

Answer 3

People here seem not to understand your question. The only way for you to stop those thoughts from your mind its to keep your mind busy. The best thing you can ever do is to accept Jesus Christ as your savior and surrender your life to the power of the Holy Spirit. This remedy is offered to you for free and with a 100% satisfaction or just send it back. Seriously living in Christ will be the answer to all your problems. Get involved in activities at a local church. And do not spend too much time in worthless activities, like TV or video games. Not that it is a sin to do this but, in which way will it help?

Answer 4

Here is an excerpt from an article on the web:

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Ask yourself, "What kind of guys am I attracted to? What am I really looking for?" That may at first seem like a strange question to be asking, but it can be a very helpful one.

Are you attracted to other guys because you want to be popular like them? Perhaps they are more muscular than you, or you think better-looking than you. Perhaps your attraction to them is really a desire to hang-out with somebody; maybe you're just looking for a few friends. Maybe you're lonely, or you feel unaccepted. Perhaps you think you just don't measure up to the other guys. You may find it helpful to talk with someone who can help you with these questions.

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Also, if you have questions about possible origins of homosexuality in an individual, I recommend the following:

http://www.family.org/married/topics/a0025114.cfm

It is all from a Christian perspective...but it is NO WAY hateful or judgmental. The founder of the organization is a psychologist and is very interested in such topics from a psychological view point. Whether or not you agree with the Biblical perspectives of the website...I think you will find the information there beneficial...it is information that is not readily available because it is considered 'politically incorrect' to view homosexuality as 'preventable'...but check it out and see if it helps you sort things out.

I would wager that what you are feeling is very normal amongst many boys-they just don't admit it.

Answer 5

Hi Zac,
What you are and what your future outlook is in terms of your sexuality depends totally on your feelings. Confusion about your sexuality can be very difficult and frightening to deal with. Whatever you are feeling is completely normal, including your sexual feelings and your confusion. Also, your choice of sexual preference is normal. There is no right or wrong attraction. Each is acceptable as long as you feel comfortable with your decision and choices. You definitely have identified that you are attracted to both males and females. Being aware of how you are feeling is important and it is a huge step in trying to figure out who you are.

Go to this site and in the Search box type in "gay" "am I gay?" and/or other key words that might have answers to help you sort through your confusion:
http://www.teenhealthfx.com/index.php

Good luck!

Answer 6

Well my friend has the same problem ill tell u what i told him " Just go with the Flow" as long that you have a happy life live life to the fullest and forget all the problems and the world there is always someone who is going to love u for the way u are

Answer 7

Well my advice is to not listen to the douche who said "only your actions will condemn you" cuz there we go with the whole religious BS! Life is Life! Do what you feel is right. If your urge is for boys then it will be that way forever. You can't stop it. It's not a disease. You may find that you're just curious about it. So do what YOU feel is right and don't let idiots sink you into thinking god will condemn you. Just be real to yourself so that you're happy.

Answer 8

Just because you think about boys doesn't mean you're gay. Everyone has little curiousities that come and go. Don't get worried. Besides, there's nothing wrong with being gay. You have to figure out for yourself what your sexual orientation is. Just be comfortable being you and don't feel ashamed.

Answer 9

"Gay" thoughts, no such thing. You are a human with an abundance of power for imagination and creative thought. There is no way you could *not* have "gay" thoughts. Sexual pleasure is physical, not intellectual, but if you are unable to experience love with a woman, and experience love with men in that way.... If you believe you are INCAPABLE of experiencing LOVE with a woman, that you are repulsed from them, then perhaps.

Answer 10

Why stop it, and try to be something you're not? It's hard to be different when you're 14, but as you get older, it will be easier - because you no longer care what everyone else thinks.

This is your world and your life....you only get one of them. Live it and be happy. You can't worry about what others want or think about you.....if you do, then you'll end up living their life, not yours.