my daughter is preganat i just found out and i really dont know how to handle it can someone help me out her?

Answer 1

Being a mother, you have to be supportive, no matter what your daughter is going through. You can let her know that you are very disappointed in her for making such a choice, but it already happened and there's nothing you can do for her not to be pregnant. All you can do now is to support her. You can punish her all you want, but that's not going to affect anything. Being angry at her won't do anything; the baby is going to be born irregardless. So what I suggest you do is ease the stress she is going through, and just be the loving mother that you are. I understand this is a lot of trouble for you, but realize that she is still your daughter. Making her feel like you are supporting her won't ruin your relationship with her.

I hope I helped you in any way possible and God bless.

Answer 2

Punishing her is definitely NOT the answer. I was the first out of all of my mother's children to get pregnant. Granted I was 20 when this happened and did not live at home. Still she was horrified and made that perfectly clear. It was devastating.

You need to be there and support her. You may think about getting some counseling for you and her both. Perhaps a support group of some sort exist in your area. You and her need to work through this together and decide what is best for the child.

If she is still very young and it seems like too much for her or you to handle then perhaps adoption is a good option to look into. Be sure to consider her feelings in all of this. She may decided that she does not want to raise this child only to change her mind the first time she holds the baby. This happens more than most people think. Let her know that it is ok to take the time to think about it, that a decision does not have to be made right now.

If she wants to keep the baby and continue school it is going to be hard but it can definitely be done. There are schools made just for teenage mothers. Schools with daycares in them.

It is going to be easier for her to come to terms with than it will be for you. You may feel devestated and upset or like you are a failure as a mother but this is not true. Teenagers do not think ahead at long term effects. All teenagers are like this. All you can do is help them cope with the results of their decisions and hope they learn a lesson from it.

Answer 3

I went through this myself, only I was a mother right before I turned 18 and that was hard enough! There is no need for punishment at this point, what's done is done, but she will really need your support right now so that she does not feel alone! There are worse things in life, and you will both get through this one day at a time. She is young, so if you are in not capable of helping her out financially, I would say that adoption will be an option for her, it is such a SELFLESS thing to do when your wanting the best for your baby. On the other hand, if you think you can stick it out with her for the first few years when it's tough, she will get the rewards of having that child in her life forever! I would hate to see her wanting to know what happened to her child for the rest of her life, cause in a couple of years, she will be an adult! God bless you both!

Answer 4

My sister got pregnant at 16 and I have talked to her about it many times. She probably wants to talk to you. Yelling won't help she is probably already scared s***less. Don't let her get an abortion I have 2 friends who did that and one of them commited suicide afterwards and the other had to be on anti-depressants for over a year. She needs you to support her! If she has a botfriend who is goin to stick by her then it might be easier on her, but if he leaves her this is going to break her heart. She needs you to be a friend and a mother now more than ever. She will probably have lots of questions for you cause her pregnancy will probably be similar to yours. If she doesn't want to keep the baby I would sugggest an open adoption cause she could see her baby and teh adoptive parents could introduce her as a family friend, or tell the child. My sister kept her baby (which is 13 now) and she says she is the best thing that ever happend to her . I don't know if I am helping or not but I am trying my best. If your daughter has a really close friend she may want to spend a lot of time with him or her talking, my suggstion is to let her go.

Answer 5

I saw your other question where you said she was 15. Um these things happen and you really don't expect it or know how to act.

Just take time to think about it tell her about her options. If she decides to keep the baby I hope she won't have an abortion but that's up to her just make sure she know the repercussions.

But if she does keep the baby I'm pretty sure you will help take care of this baby especially when you see it for the first time but tell her you will help her out but you will not take care of the baby all the time. Make sure she knows where you draw the line.

She made a grown up decision so she needs to start acting like a grown up. And adults get help taking care of their children but they don't solely depend on somebody else.

I think if you tell her that and you really put your foot down about it everything will be find. And yes she will have hard times but sometimes it's good to let your children learn the hard way.

I hope everthing works out ok!!!

Answer 6

By the sounds of it, I'm guessing this is a teenage pregnancy, but it could be different. Post more details to get a better answer, then I may know how to answer you the best I can. For now, I say give her all the support you can, but remind her that it is now her responsibility, and you can't mommy the child after you mommied her for however many years. Kids need to learn responsibility, that and the child needs to know it's true mother, so don't let your child leave it for 6 months to a year, that's how long it usually takes for a baby to know its true mother. Be there for her, but remember: Grandma doesn't do all the work around the house.

Answer 7

all you can do is be there 4 her and show her that you love her and if she is a young teenager (14-18) then tell her that she can no longer act like a child she is now an adult and needs to start making better choices and needs to act mature.
because not only does she have to deal with herself she has a baby on the way that needs her more then ever and just because its not in the world that fetus still needs her. and if you daughter is an adult, just be the best mom you can be. because your daughter is grown and can make her own choices please 4 you sake don't give advice on how to raise the child or try to take over as if the baby is yours or as if you were raising your daughter all over again unless your daughter asked 4 your opinion or advice. that is to avoid argument's and butting heads with your teen daughter or your grown daughter...

Answer 8

Just support her in anyway you can. Girls dont want to be judged some know they made a mistake. Just be supportive of her and dont critisize. Thats the best thing possible. If you do this she will come to you for anything but if you start to critisize and get mad than she wont want to come to you any more.
Iam 23 and I found out I was pregnant at 22 and still at that age because of the way my mom was it took me forever to tell her and I told her via email.
Just show her love and help her in any way you can.
Good Luck

Answer 9

I assume your daughter is a miner child. I know it is heart breaking and tragic to hear your daughter is pregnant. You are suddenly seeing the life you thought she would have flash b4 your eyes and yor are seeing it replaced with a much sadder one. It is okay and natural to be angry, hurt, sad and morn a loss of her childhood and innocence. However , it doesn't have to turn out like a tragedy. There are worse things that you could have been told like she has cancer and it is inoperable. She is still your daughter and this baby will be your grand child. Whats important is that you support her , make sure she is getting prenatal care and taking care of herself and once its over take measures to prevent it happening again. Remember there are other options like adoption. My best friend got pregnant in high school , she had her son our junior year right after she turned 17. Her parents were devastated at first and her dad didn't talk to her through the pregnancy BUT as soon as that little boy was born EVERYONE fell in love with him. They helped my friend get through high school and complete college. It wasn't easy for her but with their help she did it. Her son started driving this year and is going to be a junior in high school in the fall. My friend didn't have anymore children (by choice) , but her life wasn't ruined by her teen pregnancy either. These are the cards you've been dealt. Just remember she is still your baby and do what you can to prevent this one mistake from ruining the rest of her life. Don't alienate her by being too judgmental .... she knows she screwed up and as sad/angry/disappointed as you are she is even more scared.

Answer 10

ok I got pregnant at 14 and my mom at first didnt like the idea...but after awhile she got used to the thought...Im 15 now and things are goin great in my life my mom isnt always around to help out tho she does have a job juss lettin u know I dont let my mom dont do all the work as some ppl would think teen moms would let thier mom juss take all of it on their sholders I dont...umm ok unlike wat some ppl said up there I dont however think u should punish her in ne way I mean shes pregnant shes gonna b goin thew enough as it is already and I wouldnt add onto it...becoming a mom is stressful enough as u know and being a teen mom havin to deal wit school and wat ppl says about u is way worse...not in ne way that havin my baby was a bad thing she was truly a gift...but ppl will put her down and call her a few things that prolly isnt true...u as her mom it would b rly good for u to b there wit her...and help her thew this! I hope I have helped!and dont let her get rid of the baby and I wouldnt say adotion is a good ideal...I didnt and things are fine!