i feel sorry for my sister because her daughter gives her a really hard time. my niece is too defiant and often thinks everyone is against her. **she is pre-teen (12 or 13)
(please, serious answers only, and no she is not being abused nor is deprived of love or things)
2006-07-27 14:43:32 · 8 answers · asked by Tropicala 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
my sister does take privileges away and ground her when she gets too rowdy, but she doesn't care.
also, they do do things together - shop, watch a movie, and other things
2006-07-27 14:58:40 · update #1
I'm 14 and i was that way too as a preteen. You hear all these things on how teens are rebeliant and never listen to their parents so when they tell them not to do something they think they are against them. (at least i did from my 3 older siblings) I was the same way always arguing with my mom saying she was never on my side. Taking things away WONT work, trust me. Its just a reason to keep acting the way their acting and hate the parents more. (pre-teen and teen is all about hating the parents more or less)
Pre-teen is just like being a toddler, they test your limits. She is seeing how far she can get without getting in trouble. Then when she well knows she is in trouble she will pretend that she didn't know what she was doing and say everyone is against her.
Its a just a stage, like a toddler who is biting. If you give more attention to the baby biting, it will do it more. So basically give it time and try to ignore it as much as you can. When she sees theres no attention or pressure, then she will stop. At least that's what my parents did.
2006-07-27 17:21:20 · answer #1 · answered by Bella Stephanie 2 · 7⤊ 2⤋
Be fair, but be firm. Set strict limits on her behavior, with clearly defined punishments and rewards. You/Your Sister may want to write up these rules and post them somewhere in the house, so that there can be no discrepancies. Your sister (Depending on the rest of the household) may consider removing the girl's bedroom door. That cured the older brother of a friend of mine when he was getting problematic.
If all else fails, there is most likely a voluntary camp nearby where the girl will basically be in boot camp. Those can also help with problem children- One of my younger brother's friends has spent a great deal of time at 'The Ranch' this summer, and will be resuming his education at the local high school this fall after dropping out last year. He has also withdrawn from gang activities and is spending his time with a better crowd.
2006-07-27 15:23:55 · answer #2 · answered by pixel_seamstress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your niece needs a strong reality check.
IMO, your sister should take away more and more of her privileges as she gets more and more bitchy. If she cools off, she gets some privileges back. Parenting is tough...and your sister will have to get tough to deal with a problematic teenager.
2006-07-27 14:56:01 · answer #3 · answered by wonderbong2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to much attention???any deaths in the family????she is probally going through the normal teen thing tell ur sister do not buy her anything for a month now privleages if she cant settle down...also a divorce
2006-07-27 14:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by mommyof3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm
maybe go out with her.. to the mall or something. let her make new friends.. sounds to me like she can't get comfortable around anybody.
2006-07-27 14:50:31 · answer #5 · answered by bitter_sweet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her candy bye
2006-07-27 14:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by bluejaygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bet her down
2006-07-27 14:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRY TALK TO HER AND SEE WHAT'S UP WITH HER...WHAT IS HER PROBLEM...TRY TO BE HER FRIEND
2006-07-27 16:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by *Rude Gyal* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋