2006-07-27 14:41:11 · 14 answers · asked by :::mZ.tR3::: 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I may not be a mother, and no where near old enough to be one, but if I was I would tell them this: Don't rush anything. Teens want to be crazy or are curious and/or want to fit in, I know this first-hand cuz I'm 15 and used to be like that with a different subject when I was a little younger, 10 maybe. We teens usually want to feel cool or are curious of most things, so we do them, no matter what our parents tell us. Some teens are like "Sc*** what our parents say I'm gonna do "this"..." so it's hard sometimes to convince. I do know this however: My mother had my oldest brother when she was 20 and she couldn't do anything fun like go to parties or movies cuz she had to look after her newborn son. I'm a Health major, planning to be a chiropracter, and I know that it usually takes 6 months to a year for the baby to realize who its true mother is, and in that time, the parents can not abandon their baby or give it to someone else to babysit until the baby knows who it's true mother is. If you have a daughter/son that may have a child or look after a child, I say don't mommy their babies after you've mommied them for however many years, you're through with parenting, and they must pay the prices for their actions, and take responsibility for that which is theirs. Tell them to wait at least til' they're 25 to even THINK about s** and babies. I myself don't want any kids til' I'm 28, which seems a safe enough age for me: Marriage at 25 and kids at 28 earliest. Don't want any problems in life if I can spare them. You're the parent, so you set the guidelines, and if they don't follow the guidelines, congrats to them, they can have their own responsibilities to take care of.
2006-07-27 14:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by Karana 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You should tell them the truth. All of it. Better that they find out from you than strangers, or other kids their age who'll probably fill them with a lot of misinformation.
Don't make them think it's something evil or anything silly like that. If you put fear into them, then you'll put an equal amount of curiosity into them...and don't expect them to tell you if they decide to try it. Just tell them what sex is, why people have sex, and what the ultimate goal of sex is (pregnancy). And make sure that they feel it's OK to tell you if they're getting curious enough about sex to want to try it with another clueless youth. If you're lucky, they'll tell you about it and you can procure birth control pills or condoms.
In the end, if you don't want them having sex too early, it's your job as a parent to play Virginity Cop and force them to not do it.
2006-07-27 14:45:24 · answer #2 · answered by wonderbong2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you can talk to them, you have to establish an environment where it is acceptable for them to ask you sex questions. The truth is that no matter how old your child(ren) is(are), they already know something, and it's probably inaccurate.
The other answerers are right- Tell them everything that they want to know. Better a right if uncomfortable answer from mom than bathroom chat about Coke being an effective spermicide.
2006-07-27 14:52:27 · answer #3 · answered by pixel_seamstress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on their age. But there is this new book out it's called
"It's not the Stork" It is for ages 4 and up.
I seen this book cause it was on the local news station just 2 days ago. My son is only 2 years and 9 mos but I will be purchasinig this book for him.
Just go to Google and type in the search engine.
"It's not the Stork" the book is 20 bucks If i remember correctly.
2006-07-27 14:52:28 · answer #4 · answered by krYpToNitEsMoM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth.
That most people have sex, that some people have sex with the opposite sex, that some people have sex with the same sex, that most people masturbate (and that it's healthy), that condoms are always a good idea, that pregnancy is a big deal, that STDs are a big deal... Anything that you would expect them, as an adult, to know about sex, really.
2006-07-27 16:33:13 · answer #5 · answered by hynkle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are your children? you need to explain things to them in simple terms depending on their age and if they are not asking don't bother offering them info till they start to ask questions.i believe in being honest with my children and i always explain things to them in a way that i feel is not to over their heads and in terms that they will understand and i always ask them if they understand what i am telling them and if they feel that they need to know more or if that is enough information for the time being. All i can say is be honest when talking to your kids about this topic and any others that you need to discuss with them.BE HONEST!!!!!
2006-07-27 14:51:51 · answer #6 · answered by canadiangurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth...cut down to the age of the child. A three year old doesn't need to know what a penis does, but they should know the proper name. Go with the flow..children are naturally curious and will ask questions. Answer as honestly as you can.
2006-07-27 14:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well depends on there ages. But just talk to them when they are not doing anything important but dont wait till the last minute.
2006-07-27 14:50:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh im not looking forward to that talk. i remember my mum taking me to a group disscussion. there were other girls and their mothers too . a teacher had a talk then we all had a group discussion, where we could ask questions. sounds weired i know but i remember it being quite helpfull. they still have those things around. have fun
2006-07-27 14:49:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything. They are going to need to know it all. Dont be afraid of telling them about it, its normal.
2006-07-27 14:47:49 · answer #10 · answered by cynthia_0516 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋