2006-07-27 14:35:23 · 17 answers · asked by photomamaof4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sugar, you tell your husband that if he is so unhappy with the way his life is, he should probably be the one to leave. You have four children and you have to think about keeping a roof over their heads. Tell him to get the heck out, it is as much if not more your house than his. And please, do not let him tell you that no one else on this earth will want you. Don't let him belittle or degrade you because you must be a good woman to have given this man 4 kids in a 7 year span. God Bless you.!!
2006-07-27 15:24:42 · answer #1 · answered by college@44 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its up to you. You can leave and file for divorce seeking primary residential custodial parent of the kids, with child support, spousal support and the house, or stay and let him file an contested divorce and things will surely get ugly. He will get visitation rights to the kids, unless he can show proof (police reports, medical records, etc) then he could get custody. You are both better off if you can sit down peacefully and work things out. The Judges love it too as well as being financially cheaper. Sorry about the situation and good luck
2006-07-27 14:43:14 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what the details actually are but what are the reasons behind his request? Did you do something wrong? Is he doing something wrong? If you can make the marraige work then try to make it work of course. That is always best for everyone in the end. If there is nothing you can do except to split up then prepare yourself BEFORE you leave. Find out what your rights are as a parent and if you own property what the out come may possibly look like. Don't just walk away and try to be the "humble one", My mom did that and she screwed herself and us as her children. Good Luck.
2006-07-27 14:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by lamp062400 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, be strong. Secondly, catch him in the act of having an affair (and he IS having an affair if he's asking you to leave). Take his money, support your kids, build a life on your own without the need to rely on anyone else and then, when you're ready, start dating again.. Only this time, you're not only independant and successful, you'll be at your peak and therefore, probably the most attractive you've been for years.
2006-07-27 14:40:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm I'd tell him F- - K No if he wants to leave he can go somewhere and die He don't have no right to tell you to leave if he not happy he should get out and don't forget to leave the wallet on second thought tell him he aint gouin nowhere he said I do all those years ago so he better suck it up and tough it out noone ever said married life was gonna be a bed of roses when the last kid is done with school he can have his freedom
2006-07-27 14:51:10 · answer #5 · answered by Monte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he wants out of the relationship, he can pack his bags and don't let the door hit him in the *&% on the way out but you aren't going anywhere. He's trying to force your out so he doesn't have to pay alimony. Then he can also claim you abandoned your kids and he'll get those too. Don't leave. Make him leave.
2006-07-27 14:46:20 · answer #6 · answered by CleverGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to stay? If it is for your children, they will be better off with and example of a mother who is happy and cares enough for herself not to stay in a situation like that. There are worse things than leaving a bad marriage.
2006-07-27 14:50:54 · answer #7 · answered by keri gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him not to let the door hit him on the bum onm his way out. HA! He wants YOU to leave because you've reached the 7 yr limit where he has to pay alimony now if he leaves you.......stay put and tell him you're working crap out for the kids sake....if he wants to leave...well different story. But don't you give up..
2006-07-27 14:38:15 · answer #8 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not say, but I will assume that he has another woman and has no more love for you. Move on with your life with your 4 kids.
Stay put, never leave, the want to go should be him not you.
Go to the women organisation for help.
2006-07-27 14:44:48 · answer #9 · answered by Trouble 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont leave unless there is spousal/child abuse--in which case you should seek protection in women shelter. Leave on your own terms, not on his. Be strong and support your children together you will see it through. Moreover, dont make yourself emotionally vulnerable find support in friends and family. Good luck.
2006-07-27 14:44:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋