laughed and then said why do you ask? And he said because alot of women get lonely and often cheat. I told the bartender to make me another drink and then he leaned over and said, Athena I have always thought you were so sexy and If I were your husband I would never let you out of my sight. I then,for some unknown reason grabbed his leg and laughed. At that time,his cell rang and he had to go and he said see you tomorrow and kissed me on the cheek. Did I give meixed signals? By the way I AM having an affair,but I just don't know why he would have asked me that?
2006-07-27 14:21:44 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not good scenario. Your private life is none of his business. It sounds like your affair is on somebodys grapevine and its getting out quick. Your boss is overstepping his boundaries and is short of sexual harassment. You did send him a message but its too late now, just be prepared for a revisit by him because hes thinking hes in. Hes putting everything together and is going to hold this over your head unless you give in to him. Better stop all this crap including the affair before you lose all, unless that is exactly what you want
2006-07-27 14:30:57 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 5⤊ 3⤋
You might not like the sound of this but I must be truthful.
If you are already having an affair, why not make it a double mess and have two affairs. Better yet, why not have an affair with your boss and really jeopardize your job and your marriage at the same place and time? No. Your signals were not mixed. You were clearly letting your boss know that you are currently, out of control of your own behavior and are open to the advances of many men because you are not only lonely, but are willing to use alcohol as an excuse to lower your standards. You need to stop having affairs and clean up your act before your boss finds out who you are seeing, beside him and uses it to blackmail you for sexual favors. I also think you need to stop cheating on your husband, start looking for another job and STOP drinking with your nosy and unscrupilous boss.
2006-07-27 14:36:56 · answer #2 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How terrible that you are having an affair while your husband is overseas - not like you should have an affair regardless. Apparently, your boss is attracted to you and wants to 'take advantage' of the fact that your husband is away - take advantage of is used loosely since you obviously don't care for your marriage and since YOU have taken advantage of your husband being away. As for sending mixed signals, you sent A SIGNAL - which is that you don't take your marriage vows in the least bit seriously. What a sad thing.
2006-07-27 14:26:20 · answer #3 · answered by spolie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If one member is out of the country for extended periods of time, then it's not an affair. Every military man out there knows that while on deployment his or her partner will seek companionship with someone else. Just do not get romantically involved while he is away. Nothing worse than being stationed overseas and getting a Dear John letter. Trust me on this one. I would steer clear of the boss though, that's just trouble waiting to happen.
Just my 2 cents worth
2006-07-27 14:28:35 · answer #4 · answered by capbarrow2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with grabbing a leg, but why are you havin drinks with your boss.....you are probably some fat *** office lady thats banging the janitor, while your husband is in a war...Now you want the boss and are probably all excited... my boss kissed me , maybe he can get me an extra 50 cents an hour...and by the way , he asked you that because guys know the slut types, often times they stay away..
2006-07-27 14:26:30 · answer #5 · answered by MCK_23_L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was going to say .....sue the guy for sexual harrasment.
but, then when you wrote that you are having an affair..I was thinking ........you slut your husband is fighting for your country and you arn't being faithful.
You let a whole country down.Shame on you!
It this what you mean by your wedding vows???????????????
I hope your husband never finds out for his sake, not YOURS
You could break this guys heart, while he keeps alive in Iraq.
You are probably is reason for living.
You give us women a bad name.
Shame on you
2006-07-27 14:26:54 · answer #6 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn not only are you cheating on your husband in Iraq but you are trying to screw your boss too? You have some severe attention issues. Your boss asked you that because he can tell you are a whore. We all could on here. Grow up and get over yourself.
2006-07-27 15:00:54 · answer #7 · answered by ArmyWife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope your husband finds someone who deserves him, because you certainly do not. I would go ahead and have an affair with your boss, because it sounds like you desereve each other, Oh by the way when you try to sue him for sexual harassment this will all come out...... And then you can look for another job..............
2006-07-27 14:30:58 · answer #8 · answered by rascal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it does sound like you gave mixed signals-but what you should really be asking yourself is why are you having an affair, are there problems in your relationship with your husband? i know he is away but many people can cope with that with out turning to another, you need to think about it and talk to your husband if your relationship is going to end dont let it be through you cheating, it sounds like you are useing (and yes i do not know you so this is very basic jugment) your husbands going away to end it with him with out facing what is wrong.
2006-07-27 14:32:20 · answer #9 · answered by jetshadow25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Maybe he already knows your secret.
2. You already gave mixed signals when you told your husband you loved him and then defy that by cheating while he's serving his country.
3. The phone call was probably from his wife.
2006-07-27 14:27:39 · answer #10 · answered by AC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋