Today I just talked to a former co-worker of my hushand who said he got her number because he came up to her, asked if she had a man and if he could get her number, then tells me he was also asking for all the other females numbers. This has been happening for 2 yrs now (since we've been married) and every time he doesn't have a good excuse when I confront him or he says they are just friends. He always delete numbers from his phone, I even found a text message after I gave birth to our daughter to another girl sayin "Are you lonely yet?" (He said he was just kidding) He lies all the time and then asks me to trust him. He has told me he has never cheated on me and if he did he would tell me since we have sex with no protection. But something is telling me that something is wrong. Even if he hasn't done the deed, there is more then one way to have sex. I do love him but I would leave him in a heartbeat to do whats best for my little girl. Please someone tell me what should I do. Help!!!
2006-07-27 14:19:45 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh honey. .. . you have found yourself in a very difficult situation. It is so good to know that you would do whatever it takes for your daughter though! i bet you are a great mom. the evidence is overwhelmingly in your favor. . . you are right he doesnt have to do the "deed" to be cheating. i would really consider your options and get out of the relationship before things get worse. Gods got a man out there for you who wants to love JUST you and be with JUST you. Pray alot about this and God is gonna get you through it. You might want to get some advice from your parents as well(if you have a strong relationship with them) or someone you trust who knows both you and your husband. Good luck and God bless!!
2006-07-27 14:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont stay with him for the kid's sake. Take from someone who grew up in a dysfunctional house. It's much easier for kids to adjust to divorce than to go to school and try to pretend nothing's wrong at home. If he's cheating on you when youre pregnant, when its supposed to be the closest time of your marriage. He will cheat worse after the baby is born because you will be giving attention to the baby instead of him. Dump his crap on the front lawn, change the locks, and kiss his *** goodbye. Take it from a single mom he's not the only man in the world. And there are men out there that love kids.
2006-07-27 14:28:03 · answer #2 · answered by Mary Ruth H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave the cheating bastard the fact that he says that they are just friensds doesnt mean that sex has not happened i have several female "friends" that for one reason or another have found a place in my bed at one time or another the way he is acting is all you neeed to know that he is out doing other things with other women get a good divorce lawyer and let him go
2006-07-27 14:25:02 · answer #3 · answered by wrenchbender19 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you think you shoudl do? You need to kick him out or go stay with a family member, dont answer his calls at all! Because if you do, he will tell you what you want to hear, you will lie to your self saying "he really does love me" and then you end up going back home with a "stupid" sign on your forhead. Why dont you love yourself? If you loved your self you wouldnt allow anybody to hurt you or disrespect you. And if you do decide to go back with him remember that when your little girl starts growing up, she will see and learn how his daddy treats her mommy, and she will think thats how a man treats a women and you will have passed it on to her. You cant give what you dont have, if you dont have selfworth you cant teach your little girl about self worth. Im sorry if I sound mean but you need to learn how to love your self. Step up to be a women and not a scared little girl.
2006-07-27 14:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by phatgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a private detective and have him followed if you need proof. If you can't afford that, it seems to me that you are developing a pretty good case against him. You are also putting yourself at great risk if you are having unprotected sex with someone who might be having sex with other partners.
2006-07-27 14:29:25 · answer #5 · answered by karen wonderful 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be 100% sure that he is Cheating on you Dont take the word of other people find out yourself. If he is get rid of him, cause he will probaly do it again, and you sound like a woman that doest deserve that. Hope I helped you. trickyricky
2006-07-27 14:28:17 · answer #6 · answered by Rick L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
missy what are you waiting on???? this dirt bag is an official player and he is abusing you to no end . get the baby and get the hell out now, life is short you are young, and still have time to make a life
2006-07-27 14:31:07 · answer #7 · answered by pisof49 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can always use a decoy....friends that should go to his work and try to flirt and stuff with him and then you know where it goes.
2006-07-27 14:31:02 · answer #8 · answered by franckoboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give the guy more sex
2006-07-27 14:27:36 · answer #9 · answered by joako 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋