the other day i took my gf Layla to the doctors, and apparently she had some tests done on her the time b4 that, and when she got bak the results the doctor sed she had cancer, i think it wuz lymphoma, i freaked out and broke up with her. wut do i do now? should i try to get bak together with her or move on? i think layla hates me or sumthin b/c she is totally avoiding me.
2006-07-27 14:08:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i do luv her, i don't kno y i broke up wit her, i kno i'm an idiot for leavin her b/c she wuz the best thing tht ever happened to me.
2006-07-27 14:18:01 · update #1
You should call her up and apologize to her and explain to her what you were feeling! She doesn't hate you she's avoiding you because she was hurt by what you did to her and she needs you there with her so you can support her and stand by her, breaking up with her would mess her up mentally because since you heard that she had cancer and you freaked out over it, would make her feel bad and self-concious on the inside!So you should sit down with her and tell her how you felt and how you feel about her!
2006-07-27 14:21:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, dude...breaking up with her because she got a cancer probably didn't help her spirits at all. Normally girls want all the support they can get when they're going through a sickness, and when you broke up with her after she figured it out, it's no wonder she's avoiding you, she probably thinks you're inconsiderate of what she goes through. Just because she gets a cancer doesn't mean she'll change everything that you loved about her forever. If you honestly love her, then go to her face to face and apologize for being so rude and uncaring, and that you'll love her even if the worst happened to her. Just because someone changes their looks or their immune system goes to h*** doesn't mean their hearts have changed. I don't mean to be strict like a mother, cuz honestly I'm only 15, but I've been through a lot and I know how it feels to be heartbroken easily. If you honestly want to keep a relationship with a girl, you have to be more considerate and loving. Good luck with it if you decide to make up with her, but if she doesn't, believe me when I say you probably deserve what you get for what you did to her, and that if you learn from it, the punishment will help you be better in future relationships.
2006-07-27 21:23:10 · answer #2 · answered by Karana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine has Lymphoma Cancer. He is very ill. You should try to get back together with her. Do as much research on Lymphoma as possible, just so you know what she's up against, but don't tell her! Get her some roses or something and tell her how much you love her. Tell her that you really want to get to know her and help her get better. Tell Her there is nothing in the world more valueable than herself, (to you). Tell her that you will do all you can to help her. Stress the love. Tell her how much you love her and what you would do for her. Tell her you didn't know how to react. Tell her all you can about the thoughts rushing through your mind. Write her a poem. (About how she makes you feel. Hide it in the roses. You love her, then help her. I understand the fear. You can't let her know you are scared out of your mind. She is more fearful. Tell her how brave she has to be, and how brave she actually is. I really hope she feels better.
P. S. I Love the name Layla!
2006-07-27 21:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by otter7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would write a long letter to Layla and explain what it was that made you freak out. Cancer is a pretty scary topic but it is curable. Check out the lymphoma society of america, and get yourself educated about it. It might help you get back on Laylas good side. She is going to need a lot of support for the next year at the least.
You might also try talking to her folks and let them know that you care.
I'm a two year cancer survivor.
2006-07-27 21:13:30 · answer #4 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need a guys opinion?
well i`ll give you my opinion, she was hurt because, when she hit a "bump in the road" , and needed someone the most... you left her, when you saw it getting rough, and that's when she needed you the very most, if you really want to be with this girl, you have to make it up to her, if you think, this whole thing is not worth getting back at, then move on--- leave it alone. but if you really care about her, try your best, do whateva you think is sweet, and if she cares for you too she'll take you back.
2006-07-27 21:12:28 · answer #5 · answered by lissax3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
isn't it heartless to break with her once you found out that she has cancer? What she need most now is her love ones, yet you leave her just like that. Try putting yourself in her shoe. dude, this is a test to prove your love!
2006-07-27 21:38:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! thats horrible. do you love her? if you do, stick with her. when you get married, its death do you part. not saying that your getting married, but if you looking for a way out, that's not the answer. you need to be with her. imagine how she feels, that's a horrible thing for her to go through. YOU SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF.
2006-07-27 21:13:02 · answer #7 · answered by jan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude u just need to go apologize to her an tell her u love her, thats all u can do, the rest is up 2her
2006-07-27 22:58:07 · answer #8 · answered by matty fatty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if u love her get back with her and if u dont then move on!!
2006-07-27 21:15:32 · answer #9 · answered by LIL SERIA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hay dont post the qes. twice!
2006-07-27 21:16:53 · answer #10 · answered by sose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋